Ok this might be a bit long, not sure where to start! My husband has played trumpet for over 30 years, recently though he has also purchased a trombone. Our computer room also doubles as a music room with music stand and instruments. So the trombone is next to the pc chair. Last week I came in and he was watching porn - nothing new there! However in his left hand he was stroking part of the trombone. He is obsessed with the trombone, he is always locked away polishing it for hours.
Now this has coincided with some other things - I have stilletos with gold heels, he likes me to keep them on in bed and often touches them in bed, I thought it was just because of how they made my legs look but am worried now he is more attracted to gold coloured metal than me?
What signs should I be watching for? I feel this is my fault in some way, I used to go to the sun beds alot but stopped a few years ago due to health concerns, could it be he only ever fancied me because of my colour?