Should we try for another baby....relationship is not fantastic

[sweeneytodd]

We have talked about this and we would both love another child but the relationship is having more downs than ups at the moment

What do you all think?

I would think it better to wait til your relationship is more stable.. a baby will simply add to the stress and difficulties ime

A definate no.

leave it...a new baby is not the answer to problems in a marriage.

Babies don't heal relationships. They can weaken even strong relationships and can cause terrible damage to rocky ones.

Don't do it until you've sorted your marriage out.

No, wait till your relationship is more stable

I deep down know that we will not seperate but I am 40 next year and I just dont want to leave it too long iyswim

Better work on that relationship PDQ then.

Go to Relate or get some other form of couples counselling. But the fact that you don't think you'll split up doesn't alter the fact that babies are not good for rocky relationships, and that rocky relationships are not good for babies.

I just read the first line of this message and my answer is NO. Only because it's a well known fact that you should not have more kids to fix a relationship. It'll just cause more problems. Try and solve your problems or split. Don't even consider more kids...remember how tired and run down you get?

Babies DO NOT fix relationships. No matter how cute they are.(the baby not the relationship that is)

err no fix the relationship first

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No, no, no. Sort out your relationship first.

My DH was a band aid baby and his mother is really cold with him compared to the love she has for his older brother because 'DH did not fix her marriage'. This was 38 years ago. I'm not saying your marriage is on the rocks, but don't add a new human being into the mix until you are happy. Relate are great.