I want another baby and DP says no. Any advice??

[NumberFour]

We have one 4 year old and really really struggled after he was born because we had no family support at all (family either far away or estranged). But we did it and looking back, we are really proud in a way of how we coped.

I am 42, we still do not own our own house, our income is barely okay, we rent only a 2 bed place and I work from home. From a sensible point of view, a second child is completely out of the question. A few months ago DP said no to another baby because we could not afford it. Now he says no because it is just too hard (and it really was hard).

But I don't have a whole lot of time left seeing that I am 42 now. I would be loathe to go and fall pregnant without his agreement so that is out of the question. I don't believe that that is fair on him. But than maybe he is not being fair on me by saying no to more kids!

Any advice, please????

I don't live in the Uk, so don't read tabloids or women's magazines. Never have read them (women's magazines), so I don't really know what you are talking about. But i've met adults who clearly suffered from it.

in defense of quinne i have heard of this only child syndrome too - it didnt change the decisions i made but it is out there as a theory - of course like all theories it can be ignored and thrown out of the window!

to the op - if you decide not to have more children then perhaps think about using your amazing childcare skills in other ways - fostering? if not for you dont worry at all - you just sound like the perfect person for it!