Have now taken the first steps towards divorce - please come and support me here....

[lisalisa]

Many of you will have read my threads over the last few months whilst I have been realising that my marriage has really irretrievab;y broken down.

I have now emailed the religious organsiation reasponsbile for starting the religious element of mydivoce. What I need to do urgently now is speak to a solicitor here i the uk - I am in London. Money is tight and I need to see someone very good but not top drawer. Dh is likely to be very difficult about money and hid a lot away so need somone who'e not gpoing to bne a pushover.

Any reocmmendations at all?

Also , any worlds of support,wisdomw would be so much apreicated as would comments/stories from those further down the process as to pitfalls to avoid and tips to listen to.

thanks everyone

It really does depend on your circumstances and I guess how much your home is worth. TBH I'd expect to get the FMH anyway as ex was/is clearly mismanaging marital assets, and trying to leave us pretty much destitute. And also he is far more easily able to get another suitable property.

I aksed my solicitor to ask for a clean break, I dont want anything like the threat to sell of losing my home looming over me for the next 16 years!

Niether do i fuzzywuzzy - that was just my very limited understanding of hte law as it stands - that marital homes were usually split 2 ways. Great if not - really really great as it changes the whole picutre o fmy finances really.

Look forward to hearing from others re actual process especially those going through it....