Some of you may remember that my DP told me back in Feb that he "didnt know if he loved me" a couple of weeks later he left me and ran back to his own property which is on the market (we had always lived at mine). I had to pick up the pieces for DD who is 5 and DS who was then 6m (he is now almost 1yr). In April he asked if we could give it a go again on the proviso that I move into his home for the Easter break (15 miles from my work, nursery and school meaning that in rush hour traffic I am doing all the pissing about!!!). Last month there was an accident on the motorway so i had to take the roads back it took me 3HOURS!! The kids were starving and screaming, DD had to get one of DS's nappies out so she could have a wee in the car cos there was nowhere for me to pull over. DPs response to this. Oh well these things happen. Its happened 3 times in the last 8 weeks!!!! Its now almost September and i am still living at his. The kids have minimal stuff here and my DD has hardly any toys. She is missing the comfort of her own home and to be honest I am too. The problem is DP wont relocate back to mine. He says if i go I am splitting up the family!!! DESPITE the fact that he says he still doesnt think that he loves me!!!!!! I keep planning on just leaving him to maybe give him a kick up the arse but i am so scared that its the wrong thing to do. I have no friends around here, my family all hate him for leaving in the first place then making us move here and the stupid thing is he works nearer to my home, plays footy 3 nights a week round the corner from mine so I dont get why he cant move. I think its the control thing in that I own my house and he owns his, but if he had pulled his finger out 2 yrs ago we could jointly own a property!! He has asked me to sell mine and so we have money and at least its one sold ready for when his sells. I am reluctant as if he fucks off for the 3rd time in this relationship my only security for the kids is gone!! His house is still on the market as we are still supposed to be getting something together...however I have just found some papers saying he has REMORTGAGED without telling me and is tied into this house for 2yrs. Therefore if i sell mine I am stuck here in this awful place!! This probably doesnt make any sense but I just need to rant it all out before my head explodes. I just dont know what to do. I am such a muppet for being so undecisive...please help!!!!!