So I learnt recently that my ex is planning to move in with her bloke, no idea when, am guessing first 6m of next year. My kids are 19/16 and we split 50/50.
There is little love lost between us and we dont really talk now the kids are this age. My eldest doesnt really care as they are going to uni so limited impact. Youngest is more bothered and this week they have had arguments because they dont really like the idea.
Its hit me in two ways...
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That my youngest is initially upset, could be shock but having to share a house with another family I guess is a big thing for them. Chances are they will come round to idea but hate them being upset. I am just being here for them rather than get too involved but have reassured that they can obviously decide for themselves what to do.
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Why am I jealous/angry? Not of her or him... the thought of getting back together would literally be the last thing I want, no feelings at all. But the fact that I guess she has something I want... to be a family. Have been in a few relationships but I seem to pick the ones that are never looking for that sort of commitment. Am jealous because I would like to settle down with someone in that way (as well as the obvious benefits of having a 2 income house). Worried / angry that if anything happened to her, the kids would not get what they should re: inheritance, not that I am privy to that sort of info. Angry that she broke up the family (after 3 flings that I know of). Angry that she is the sort of person who will probably try and rub my face in it with her social media posts (she has already made barbed comments about doing 'better than me'. Angry that rather than do the decent thing and message me (due to the kids) I found out after everyone else!
I am sure if I was in that type of relationship I wouldn't really care so it's probably that but it really has hit me more than I thought. Guess thats normal? I know I just need to ignore it all but yeah, its a blow!