How did you cope with sharing your home after you split from exH?

[Supamum3]

ExH have been split for almost a year, as our house is rented we agreed that I would take over the tenancy and he would find another place to live. He is staying with a friend whilst he figures out where to live and what he can afford (we live in an expensive part of the UK), so it means when he has our DC it happens in my home as the friends place is very small.

He’s very involved with our DC and sees them 3/4 times a week. I am enjoying my own space exactly how I like it but it’s hard having to coparent in the same space.

I guess no one really thinks about this stuff after making the difficult decision to split.

For those who had to live with their ex after the split; how did you deal with it? how long did it last, any tips and advice welcome or just tell me I’m not alone!

TIA

Anyone?

I think all you can do in this situation is look at the positives.
For example, he’s very involved with his children. So many dad’s in his position really aren’t sadly.

It sounds like the least worse outcome unfortunately. If he can’t afford to get a place (and hopefully is also supporting you financially and this is the reason he can’t?), then it isn’t ideal, but could be worse.

I did it for a few too many years and on the surface it worked great, especially for DS. However, in the back of your head you're thinking/screaming 'I didn't want to split and still be together'. It's hard. You just want to move on, but you can't, not yet, but you will eventually. At the end of the day, you need to be reasonable, keep boundaries and keep your DC's best interests at heart. My exDH and I had a lot of criticism off people that really didn't help. Ignore anyone like that.

Thanks for the encouraging responses, it is hard. Looking at the positives is helpful, that’s a good suggestion, the kids they love it when he’s home and and their routine is familiar. Thank you all