Running On Empty by Jonice Webb: therapy for CEN specifically, in the UK?

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Hello people; I have been reading this book and finding a LOT of the situations and dynamics she mentions ring true for me.

The biggest concern that I have is how these things now affect my relationships and parenting in particular. However: while spotting a pattern may be useful, it doesn't necessarily fix anything. I am very, very tired of battling with the same patterns with no end seemingly in sight.

The author is American, and while on her website she does list some UK based practitioners who seem to have done modules of some sort via her company, I am not sure how that translates into them necessarily having the sort of insight I would be looking for.

The one therapist I was able to find on her list was about 50 miles from me but I am hesitant to go to them as they appear to have 'rainbows everywhere LGBT+ ally' ethos* that I would find irritating and inhibiting as a client.

If you have read the book and have yourself experienced Childhood Emotional Neglect, I would really like to hear your thoughts, or whatever you feel comfortable sharing. (If you have found therapy helpful, or if you have a no-BS practitioner you would recommend then that would also be extremely helpful to hear about.)

Thanks in advance!

*NB:This is because I am firmly gender critical, without being a homophobe or anything like that.

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Hi - therapy is available for this via the NHS, Interpersonal or Dynamic Interpersonal therapy, other talking therapies and/or Cognitive Behavioural therapy. Link to the NHS therapies page - scroll down. You would need an assessment first, if course. Worth trying before you go down the private route, if you did you would need to check they are properly registered etc
Good luck 🤞
https://www.nhs.uk/tests-and-treatments/talking-therapies/

Thanks so much, @Oxymorons. I am not in England- but I will see if it’s possible to self-refer where I am. Also, helpful to have those suggestions of styles to look for. I did do some CBT in the past, but I think having read this book I’m seeing things a little differently so perhaps worth trying again…

Apologies forgot this link to the body for psychodynamic therapy, , including dynamic interpersonal therapy. they verify therapists have completed the relevant courses and completed 150 hours practice. Scroll down for therapist list.

I still think it's worth trying CBT via the NHS first though.
https://www.psychoanalytic-council.org/find-a-therapist/dit.html

Yes CBT definitely worth a try again. If you are Scotland or Ireland, there should be an NHS website with their mental health pathway on x

I second looking at BPC directory—psychoanalytic/dynamic training is very much oriented around relationships and considerations of early life relationships, reflecting, repairing, rebuilding… Plus many psychoanalytic psychotherapists believe their professional neutrality is an important element of creating the therapeutic environment, so you wouldn’t have to know what their political leanings were (or really any personal information at all). Very freeing!