What gives you the ick - lighthearted

[Sunnydaysahead22]

Trying hard to get over my AP now it’s over. He wants to be friends just not the physical side.
I’m trying to remember the things I don’t like to help me get over him.
He didn’t brush his teeth when he went to bed
He smelt generally quite ‘tangy’.
His chat could be quite boring

So why is it so hard to get over him. Help me out please!!

I don’t think you can just be friends if you’ve had an affair (I’m assuming that’s what AP stands for but please correct if I’m wrong). The whole point is that it was an affair and morally wrong (though I appreciate not everything is black and white). Saying you’ll still be friends but without the sec feels like one party is either trying to control you, by making sure you won’t move on, or leaving the option open for falling back into the same pattern of behaviour. My friend once had an affair and it ended badly. Best thing was to walk away and not look back.

Getting over an affair is different, though, because what you really need to get over is the version of yourself that you were reflecting in your AP.