Going NC with a narcissistic ex

[Jasmine205]

Can anyone share what happens if they’ve had experience of going No contact after dumping a narcissistic partner. Did they leave you alone and move on and did they find a way to contact you and reappear? Also did they pretend to be relieved when you dumped them and quickly make plans to move on? Anyone who wants to share their experiences would be great thanks

If you go no contact you won't know how they behave afterwards.

It helped me to imagine him doing what he mostly did when with me (lying down watching reels).

He kept contacting me through email long after I had asked him not to (free email, no block function).

Thanks for the response. That’s good that you got closure as he emailed you. Some are so arrogant they pretend they’re relieved to be free.

He may well do that.

Do you have children with them?

If not, then I can’t even think why you’d be asking the question

Just curious as to people’s experiences

No contact means trying to remove them from your consciousness and break the attachment. It is inevitable you'll be wondering if they're thinking about you or trying to get in touch (hoovering is a common thing). There are a lot of resources online - Richard Grannon, Melanie Tonia Evans who explain well what happens. Ultimately you have to remember these aren't normal functioning humans. They don't experience love like most of us do. Once they realise you're not a source of narcissistic supply anymore, they'll find a new source. It's not personal to your worth as a person or a partner. Please focus on yourself ❤️

And remember, nothing they say is sincere. Every single thing they say to you is an opportunity for them to manipulate and abuse you.

Putting this here for anyone who needs it. Narcissists come back and fish years later when they want you back on the hook. Two or more occasions of contact if unwanted constitutes harassment in the eyes of the law. The police will support you if you need it, don’t suffer it, act ❤️.

Yes, I did and its worked well.

She accused me of being one, classic deflection. Would take a strange tone on messages, everything had to be about her and what she can get, abusive language, double standards. In the end I blocked on everything.

Kids were 16&14 at the time and quite mature. Live a mile from each other, 50/50 so no real need to communicate anyway. Any requests for holiday go through the kids.

Been great. She has doorstepped me twice, and both times I didnt react - just ignored and went about my business.

I went no contact after ending things with a narcissistic ex and the first few weeks were the hardest part — not because I missed him, but because the silence felt so loud after all the noise. He did try to reappear, a few months later, with a casual message as if nothing had happened. The 'relieved and moving on fast' act was exactly that, an act — I later learned he'd been telling people he was fine while trying to get back in touch. What helped me most was blocking everywhere, including email, and not responding to anything at all, not even once. It does get quieter, and the peace on the other side of it is worth every hard day.