I visited my brother and had we talked a lot. He is a difficult character and very closed off and it's the first time that we have talked about some things. It was very upsetting and some of the things that he said were really shocking to me.
I remember our father being abusive but never my mother. My brother on the other hand said that she had been abusive, too, although he didn't use this term and outright refuses to acknowledge it for what it was.
He said that when he wet the bed she'd threaten to cu off his penis (made him pull it and held scissors close to it). He also said that he was told that if he ever got into a stranger's car the stranger would chop him up and eat him, but keep his penis for last because that's what child snatchers are really after. There were other things from when he was bit older (11 or 12) where both of his parents would have been quizzing him how he was feeling if there was a film with explicit sex scenes on.
He didn't even seem upset when telling me about it but just annoyed and said that it had really messed him up growing up and that he had become so scared to sleep in case he'd wet the bed that he was constantly tired in school.
I'm very upset by this because I'm very close to our mother and none of those things ever happened to me. I remember him being treated much more harshly than me but I was never scared like this. I'm not sure what to do with this information either. I don't want to accuse him of lying but it sounds a bit far fetched and I would like to ask my mother about it (and ask her what the hell is wrong with her), but I don't know where to even start.
Our childhood was completely chaotic and unstable, so not exactly a fairytale upbringing, but I'm horrified at my mother having done something like this.