Please read below- any advice appreciated

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I’m sorry for the really long story here, but basically, I met a guy we met for fling - all consensual.

What I didn’t realise is he had recorded a video of me. I knew he took his phone out and as soon as I saw it, I swatted it away. That’s what I definitely remember. He then put the phone to the side.

A day or two after, I asked him to send me whatever was on his phone and he did. Very clear that it was me in the video.

Just wondering, is there anything illegal or wrong about this or am I reading too much into it?
I have asked him to delete it.

sorry for the double post I don’t know whether to post is in relationship Or the other group

Absolutely wrong. Without a doubt. He has non consensually filmed you in a private environment. I would contact the police.

To be clear, were you having sex/in a state of undress at the time?

I would contact the police.. Sorry to hear that's happened to you. That's shit.

Yes but I also want to make clear you can’t see my face, but you can tell it’s me.

And I have asked him to delete it.

My work is very regulated, so I’m becoming quite paranoid and a bit stressed about it

Have you Googled the legality of it?

Then you get ahead of him and you go straight to the police.

He is looking after his self interest. You need to look after yours. You learn from him. He didn’t give a flying (ahem) fuck about you.

And write notes. If you are worried about your job, start covering your arse now.

Yep, police.

If he took his phone out without your consent and you made it clear that you didnt want him to do it, and then followed up with a request that he delete, he is stuffed.

Think about the next woman. You are doing her a favour too. This is a man who needs to be taught a lesson.

I think so, But there’s so much grey area I’m trying to be very accurate about this and rational. It was casual sex that was consensual no issue there so just want to make sure whatever’s on his phone isn’t there anymore. But thank you for the comments they’ve helped a lot. X

The issue is that recording could be everywhere already, he could have sent it to friends. Deleting it off his phone does nothing. If he has cloud based storage, it's available whenever he wants it
Contact the police. The sex was consensual, the recording wasn't. The police have the authority to check his digital footprint via interrogating his phone and via his phone service provider.

This is without doubt a crime
https://revengepornhelpline.org.uk/information-and-advice/need-help-and-advice/voyeurism-and-upskirting/

Please go to the police. Deleting off his phone means nothing. He could have sent that to a WhatsApp group, God knows how many men. And if it's been uploaded to the web .... there's no stopping it then.

Strikes me he may be one of an increasing number of men who film covertly then upload to amateur porn sites.
As for work, if you have been to the police that report would be vital in showing them someone filmed you covertly.

Not to put too fine a point on it, but you can't. You can request it taken down if you see it online, and you can report it to the police, but a legal outcome is very unlikely I would have thought.

I would phone 101 and ask for their advice. That is 100% not ok. What a creep.