Ill try put this as concise as I can.
my younger sister the baby of the family, had a good job, lovely home, good husband and has two young kids 3&2. She isnt the best mum by any stretch, by nature shes quite selfish and all about herself, the house was never clean and dinners are always food thrown on a paper plate of the freezer variety. Her husband has always picked up the slack with the kids, he was pretty much her lap dog. Now Im trying not to judge because it did cross my mind maybe she was struggling so to a point Ive picked up the slack too, cleaning for her daughter etc. Anyhow she came to me in July saying she was messaging another man, I advised her to focus on the relationship with her husband and cut contact. It now seems at this stage she was in a full relationship with the other guy and left her husband. Again, no judgement shes an adult and we dont know what goes on in other peoples relationships. Shes actively been trying to get pregnant by this new guy since July, she told me yesterday shes pregnant. Neglect of her kids is ongoing and tbf the kids would be better off with their dad as awful as it is to say. Iv had to clean her house, buy the kids jackets and pjs as they were being put to bed in clothes, not washed no jackets etc. The house is disgusting, social workers if they came would take her kids off her. Our mum just says not everyone has my standards. Anyhow she trying to move country with this guy, she flies out every weekend leaving the kids with their dad, he has them Wednesday evening and every weekend fri- tue. Shes lied to the courts on her relocation about qhere she will be working or living, saying its with my parents, when it will be with this guy. Hes got three kids, one non verbal, every other weekend. Hes living in a two bed council house, they are begging the council for a four bed now. She’s told me the plan is to not work as hes looked at things and decided its better financially if she doesnt. My mums enabling the situation and telling me she hopes her relocation is granted. Not that it matters but the guys a settled traveller with a criminal history and past drug addiction. Im here thinking who the hell is this person. I love my sister but dont like her, dont agree with her choices etc. I could contact social services, I could tell the ex husband, I could tell the solicitor but I feel like if I did that what kind of sister would I be. And to add to this, my sister is very self orientated. Ive just had a baby and my life is going well, Ive also just got married. When the focus is off her, she will do anything to draw it back on her. For example, the day I went into have my son she leaves her husband for someone else.
Its also bothering me how she so carelessly doesnt care about her husband and how hurt he will be, the kids etc
Just looking for a pep talk. Im really unable to be happy for my sister at this point with her blatant disregard for people, not to mention shes not the best mother and cant looks after/struggles with what shr has already