How supportive was your partner if you have ever been through a crisis/high stress in your life?

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Did they help you out more during that time?
Buy you a little gift here and there to show they were thinking of you?
Offer a nice massage to help ease your stress?
Lend a listening ear when you just wanted to vent?

Or just let you get on with it?

Ex-H could be 100% guaranteed to make a crisis into a catastrophe. Essentially I had to make sure any problems were dealt with well away from him, and I kept away from his.

My partner now is mostly a rock. Now and then I could do with a bit more practical help (not having a China business trip the same time as I have a prearranged op at a hospital an hour away that means I cant drive, sigh, though its a high pressure situation for him and I get it) but he's always a good sounding board and when he can, he's helpful practically. As I try to be for him.

My DH is always hugely supportive.

I recently went through a horrible work situation that ultimately ended in redundancy. He was a complete rock. He seems to know exactly what I need and when. Sometimes a quiet hug, sometimes getting me chocolate or a nice breakfast. He’s basically just a great cheerleader.

I know that sounds saccharine and cheesy but we’ve been together for a very long time and he just knows me and knows what I find helpful. He’s definitely not perfect but he’s always on my side.

Are you going through something OP because your post sounds like you’re writing an article for a tabloid and need quotes…

Of course. My DH can overreact and freak out when small things go wrong, but when things really go wrong, like bereavement, serious illness or major work catastrophes, he is always there for me. Listening, sympathetic, and picking things up at home if needed so I can focus on doing what I need to do.

Going through a stressful time at work right now. DH has been fantastic - it’s amazing how much difference emotional support can make. It’s the small things, as PP mentioned. Just a hug or making me breakfast can lift my mood and calm me down. PILs have been equally great. I’m very lucky. 😊

Thanks everyone. I love my dh and he is very helpful in a practical way but not so much emotionally.

I have been going through a very stressful time over the last few years, it's wrecking me and I would love a little of what you all have mentioned.

On a day to day basis not amazing.

I had a cluster fuck of things happen all at once and as a result I had anxiety & depression for a couple of months (for the first time in my life) and he was great, couldn't do more.

You mention that your stressful time has been ongoing for a few years, I'd find it hard to be supportive for years tbh, as selfish as that sounds.

I hope things improve for you very soon 💐