toxic traits

[TwisterIcelolly]

Are there any toxic traits that you actually find attractive? this might be controversial but interested to hear if anyone has any they find attractive

No

Just me then 😅

Such as? I can’t think of any toxic traits that might be attractive, it’s a contradiction in terms.

i grew out of all that drama many years ago and am married to a wonderful man who treats me nicely, doesn’t flirt with my friends or go out drinking or borrow money off me weekly. I’m often surprised to learn that some women are married to useless oafs who add nothing to their lives and would miss them if they left!

Some of the ones I’ve seen suggested are
jealousy
Obsessive
needy
Possessive

And those are attractive to you... why?

“some of the ones I’ve seen”

Yeah. A man who is a walking nightmare - usually weed smoking, long hair, has many guitars... took me a while to get over that one!

Sorry, I misread your second post "just me then" as meaning that you did find some toxic traits attractive. My mistake!

I do, just not all the ones listed those are what I’ve seen others saying

“jealousy
Obsessive
needy
Possessive”

if you’re 16 then these traits are fine for bit but I absolutely can’t stand these traits now as an adult. These type of people usually have low self-esteem and need constant reassurance which is exhausting! I also they the ‘need’ to be in a relationship and I only work with ‘wants’!

You go first OP!

Unfortunately yes, and this is a cross I bear of my own but not the ones listed no way.

Probably more of the alpha male behaviour that can look like toxic masculinity.

My DP is like this on the exterior, he’s laddy AF, but not really like that at all behind closed doors. With me he is like a soppy teddy bear. The weird mixture of both is attractive and also frustrating.

He is currently lying with his head on my lap asleep wearing his adult sized Bluey PJ’s after he cooked dinner with me and we cleaned up the house together equally, but if you put him in a pub he would suddenly morph into an extra from Lock Stock & 2 smoking barrels who is very confident and self assured and has never lifted a saucepan in his life.

I guess yes, like @Kailtlyb82 said - laddy. Not laddy as in flirty with other women - no I'd hate that. Maybe laddy as in not aways PC.

will not be popular but i do like a man that’s little bit jealous/possessive

I’d love a man who’s a bit obsessed with me tbh I’m sick of being the only one who’s lovey dovey and touchy feely!! I want it back! Be a bit obsessed!!!

You won't be so keen when he gives you the silent treatment for days because you want to go out with your friends, or stops you from seeing your family, or complains that you talk to male work colleagues, or is convinced that you have the hots for his best mate, but you do you.

i said a little bit, my ex was the opposite he wouldn’t care if a man tried to chat me up in front of him he wouldn’t give a shit and that wasn’t nice either i like a slight bit of jealousy not overly controlling like how you mentioned