Getting into a relationship to get on property ladder

[Hallopeone]

Be honest, how many of you have looked at the cost of living, ability to ever afford housing, and decided to pair up with a romantic partner motivated mainly for financial benefit? After conversation with ex roommate, I think this is more common than you think. Back to Jane Austen times. Before moving out this girl said- I will literally do anything to never have to house share again. No judgement or moralising please.

Nope. Single and financially independent here.

However, my ex jumps from woman to woman trying to find someone to live with. He’s financially a mess so hopefully no woman will fall for it!

No way!! Why would you financially tie yourself in with someone unless you actually wanted to be around that person/be in a relationship with them??
That's nuts!

Do you mean proper gold-digging, like seeking out someone rich and generous for personal gain?
Gross behaviour and hopefully anyone with money will have the savvy to protect themselves financially!

You’re right! I see men doing this all the time. And they brag about it

Go back to pre 70s (maybe later) and most people lived at home until they had someone to marry and you saved up and bought your first house together that way. Also I think often only the man’s salary was taken into account for the mortgage!

What has changed as that people move out younger, live together with partners shortly after meeting them, more go to university and then of course the massive increase of house prices to salaries.

It’s not something I’ve ever thought about. I imagine some people do it; but it’s also common for people to stay in miserable relationships which have long since run their course because separating would mean selling the house and managing on single incomes again - so it’s unlikely to be the happy ever after the people who do it are looking for. Living with a partner you don’t love or like very much is essentially just living in a houseshare but with more problems.

Never crossed my mind, nor can I think of anyone who has openly admitted it.
I do know couples who have moved in together pretty quickly though, but all rented at first.

‘No judgement or moralising please’

WTF?

So using people for financial stability is a-ok now? Jesus wept.

Well you would be house sharing, with a bloke that also expects you to share a bed as well. If he would be a good provider and you liked him enough to live with him as a couple (and weren't a romantic type waiting for prince charming) I guess it's an OK basis for marriage, many marriages not based on falling head over heels in love work out well.

Hmm, let's put it this way, if i ever found out that the only reason a woman was with me was for financial reasons she would looking for somewhere else to live...