International dating?

[HelloKittyHelloKitty]

has anyone done this or considered it? Are there any websites for it?

Why would you want to?

Why not?

@HelloKittyHelloKitty because the distance is too great?? Plus when you meet up jet lag will be a factor depending on whereabouts they are?
Money might be a problem too....the list is endless!!

Long distance dating is alot of good conversations but no intimacy.

I am just wondering if anyone has done this?? Could be interesting, my sister met a man abroad and they dated for a while him travelling here, hed travelling there, might be a better option than British men 😂

I was in a long distance relationship for a year. We visited each other a couple of times for a couple of weeks or a month.

It was shit.

Either you're together, and you both feel like you have to "make the most" of every moment.

Or you're apart, and you're having to say no to plans because you've promised to call your partner that evening.

It just doesn't work, theres no way of working out if you actually fit into each others lives, because it doesn't happen naturally.

DS is gettingmarried next year to someone who lived on the other side of the world for the first two years they were together. His fiancé luckily travelled a lot to the UK and France for work, so they either spent 24 hours a day together or were 1000s of miles apart. But it has worked.

Thats lovely, great to hear a positive

If you are looking to become a parent, I would not choose to introduce the potential of international custody proceedings into your life.

For me, one of the concerns is that you can think you know someone after many years but have actually really only seen them on their best behaviour. And having lived in different countries, I’ve found you get the same variation of people in any place. There is no ‘somewhere else’ where all the men are better.

Depends what you want. I'm super independent so worked for me. Now I would because I'm looking for a different cultural perspective or outlook, have a thing about accents and if push came to shove, would have no issues with relocation.

It’s not something to choose to do deliberately. Introduces all sorts of complications, however wonderful the person might be.

Are you wanting to move to a different country?

So many factors to think of, such as:

Who would relocate? In what timescale? What would they do for work? Are their current skills transferable? How resilient would their mental health and self esteem be when removed from their social and familial circle and being out of work? Would the other partner be happy being a sole provider? Does the country of desired settlement have a high barrier to settlement of spouses? The list goes on.

It can work but it needs homework to be done first, and eyes to be open.

thanks all im not actually considering it but i just think it could be interesting! i’m too old now but it’s something i wish i had done when younger (and id happily relocate!)

My mate would only date international girls. He married one. She was absolutely awful, controlling, and bankrupted him before he saw the light. Then divorced and almost immediately got engaged to the next one. A citizenship scammer. And the others were either after citizenship or money. So transparently. He was a nice enough lad but socially clueless and had this massive blind spot and kept getting taken in by people from various countries (I’m not convinced they were all really even women, he never met most of them). Last I heard he was trying to get a visa for his “girlfriend” from Brazil. 🤦‍♀️

I now live internationally and think if you want to date internationally, go somewhere (for longer than a holiday) and let something naturally develop. Much better foundation for a healthy relationship than sifting through billions of online or holiday scammers.