An uncomfortable conversation

[KellyR1]

Hello. I tested positive for Ureaplasma for the first time in my life. The last time I was tested was in December 2025, and the results were negative. Since then, I’ve only had unprotected sex once, but I don’t know if I can assume that’s how I got it.
I’m not in a relationship with the guy, it’s more of a situationship.
Anyway, I got tested because I had a little discharge, nothing too significant, no smell or pain.
Now that I’ve tested positive, my doctor said the bacterial load was low and that we could just monitor it rather than treat it. But because I mentioned the discharge, she prescribed doxycycline.
Obviously, I now have to talk to the guy, but I’m scared about how to approach the conversation. I don’t want him to feel like I’m blaming him, and I don’t want him to think I gave it to him either. I’m also scared this might push him away because I’m not ready to stop seeing him.
I honestly don’t know how to have this conversation. And it terrifies me more than the treatment itself.
How would you approach this situation?

My understanding is that this condition is an overgrowth of commonly held bacteria and not necessarily transmitted through sexual contact. Has your doctor advised you to let your sexual partner know?

I would probably approach it by firstly asking if he was aware of the condition and if not, explaining what it is and that you've been diagnosed with it. The reason I suggest doing it this way is that if he has never heard of it, he might panic as soon as you introduce the subject, but as it's a bacteria many people carry without ever knowing about it, it's not something he needs to worry about unless he too develops symptoms suggesting an overgrowth.

I hope the treatment gets you back to normal, OP.

Be optimistic, even if you have an STD or STI, its possible to recover and bounce back. Stay safe in future.

This guy wants to hang out and I originally thought I was going to tell him in person, but honestly, I'm terrified and I would prefer to do it over text. I'm just fearing rejection, getting blamed, or losing him

Surely with even a casual relationship you should be able to have open and direct conversations- if he isn’t up to that he probably isn’t worth hanging on to in the first place.