Break up

[Cerysc123]

What did you find helped when you split up from your partner?

Bit of a backstory, me and my now ex partner broke up in June. We have two 16 month old babies together and were together for 4 years. He moved on within a week, started sleeping with a much older woman from work and the more I think about it, I reckon it was going on before we split up.

At the moment I feel rubbish about myself😥

Please don't feel rubbish about yourself. This is all about him and his inadequacies.
Such a difficult time for you OP. What a betrayal. Have you got support from family and friends?
Things will get better.

Various things to be thankful for:

• you have successfully split up
• you're over the worst now
• you don't have more children with him
• you're a better person than him

Music helps and a focus of a replacement in the form of giving attention somewhere else.

What a let down of a man. Allow yourself to be sad, disappointed, angry and grieve the family you wanted to have and the man you thought/hoped he would be.

boundaries help as much as possible, start an email just for him don’t have him on WhatsApp messages etc do all do the child arrangements stuff on the email and remove him from any social media. Don’t expose yourself to their nonsense.
any Free time you get, try your best to redirect and rumination about him/them and refocus on you and your wellbeing and happiness. It will get better and you’ll get used to the new normal. Lots of love x

I wouldn’t say ‘be thankful you don’t have more children’ I’m really sad to only have one and am actually grieving my child’s imaginary siblings , if I’d had another with my ex I’d have been grateful for my child to have a sibling- I always find this a weird comment . Especially how everyone on Mumsnet says blended families are such hell, op is actually really lucky she has two babies with the same coparent so she has two children, they have siblings, but she only has to deal with one ex

Apologies if I have given offence; I didn't mean to imply that she shouldn't be grateful for the children she already has.