How do you get them to leave?

[LemonDrizz]

I have asked my 'partner' several times to leave but he refuses. The house is solely in my name, as are all the bills etc. It's like he doesn't believe me and I dont know how many different ways I can say it and yet he still won't go?

Unfortunately lately we have 2 young children so I dont really want police turning up etc but will if I have to.

Am I supposed to pack his stuff for him? He has some furniture here that is his but not loads of other stuff.

I almost feel its easier if I had to leave as I would have been long gone by now, but refuse to give up my house....

Ideas? Advice?

Change the locks when he is at work.

Have you got any friends or family who could reinforce the message that he needs to leave?

You change the locks, text him to say that he has been repeatedly asked to leave and tell him he can collect his stuff from his mother or mate's house once you've bagged it up. Tell him it is over and you do not want him there.

Tell him if he presents at your door you WILL call the police and have him arrested.

(I'd probably go away with the kids for a couple of days if you don't want them to witness him kicking at the front door and shouting)

Many years ago, after weeks of this kind of nonsense with my ex, a fabulous friend helped me put all his stuff in bin bags and deliver them to his mum.

I do love this idea. I do have some fabulous friends who i know are dying to do this. He has a storage container and im wondering about dumping it all there. Just not sure what to do with the furniture, I'm sure someone will have a good idea...

This is a good, simple plan. He's going away for the weekend soon so perhaps I will be able to action it all then...
My mum will have the eldest im sure...

As you’ve given no detail as to why (and I am guessing it’s not abuse or otherwise you would definitely want the police involved), if I was him I wouldn’t want to leave my children so I can see why he doesn’t want to leave.

Of course no one wants to leave their children. That gives him rights to stay in a house after a relationship has ended?

He's thinking if he pretends it isn't happening then it'll all blow over and you'll somehow forget about it.

Perfect timing to do it while he’s away. Good luck.

Agree with PPs. Change the locks, pack up his stuff and dump them at his mum's. If you're really desperate and can afford it, rent a van and take his furniture too. Send him a text once its done. Or you can call the police and they'll get him out.

Has he got somewhere to go?

Get a friend or family member to help. I got my brother to go round whilst I went out; my brother calmly told him to pack as much as he could in three hours, give him the his keys and leave. My ex was not happy but it saved me.

Also enlist other friends to help move his stuff.

Good luck with it and your new chapter 💐

Not the OP's problem.

Hey OP, do you want to post this under 'legal'? There is a similar thread from 2021 that has some legal advice scattered throughout, but it might be faster to repost your current thread there to get legal advice if that is what you are after?

Here's a similar older thread (from 2021)
https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/legal_matters/4258457-make-ex-partner-leave