Wondering if she’ll meet another man .. saying it out loud

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Having a quick chat this morning and my best friend who told me that along with other strange comments , her partner’s ex gf announced one night( which ended their relationship, as final nail in the coffin) that she wondered if she would meet ‘someone’ on her girls holiday ..🤷🏻‍♀️ They were together around nine months and this was the last of similar comments and relentless flirting during their relationship. We were trying to make sense of this, baring in mind also that she is 50!
Is this attention seeking or testing or why on earth would a woman say that to her partner especially as her ex husband cheated on her so many times and she begged him to come back!
We’re stumped ! Any thoughts??

I’m lost.

It sounds like some weird relationship test or game she was playing to try to elicit a reaction. It's probably not worth the effort to try to work out what her motives were, just be glad that you don't have to put up with it.

Sorry!
friends partners ex used to pass comments about meeting other men and flirted outrageously with them in front of him. Just a casual chat but we are both stumped as to why a person would do this if they’re meant to be in love , that’s all!!

Clearly not in love.

Attention seeking behaviour and possibly trying to provoke a reaction from her then partner. Some people are simply addicted to drama and see calm, grown up relationships as “boring”.

Just file it under the list of things you have no need to understand

Because she only feels good about herself if she gets validation from men on her attractiveness?

Because she enjoys feeling desired by multiple men?

She likes making her partner jealous because she wants him to feel like he’s not good enough for her- “Look…all these other man want me. You’re so lucky I chose you”. It keeps him on his toes.

Either way, it’s an unhealthy way to behave in a relationship and he’s best off out of it.

At a guess someone who is insecure, and needed to see a reaction, a jealous one from her then boyfriend, to validate his feelings towards her. Her behaviour is toxic and unhealthy.

There is a shorter way to say ‘friend’s partner’s ex’ - ‘stranger’

This person is nothing to you so don’t worry about it…unless this is another post to question a woman’s choices for no reason whatsoever.

She was testing him for a reaction because she needy and insecure and didn't feel he was giving her the sort of attention she wanted. Either that or she was not needy and insecure at all, just someone quite narcissistic, who likes to play with someone else's emotions for the fun of seeing it upset them.

I know someone who recently came home from a night in the pub and announced to her partner of three years that she'd kissed someone else and it was because she wasn't getting enough attention from him. She was asked to move out and now he gives her no attention at all. So that went well.

She was obviously trying to make him jealous for one reason or another. Insecurity, revenge, trying to provoke a reaction because she didn't feel he cared enough, perhaps. Maybe she was taking out her anger at her ex-husband on her new boyfriend. Which is unfair, obviously, but not that uncommon. Clearly it wasn't a healthy relationship, which I assume is why it ended.

You know full well that you are not really 'stumped' by this, so enough with the faux naivety: it's obvious that you and your friend had a good old bitching session about your friend's boyfriend's ex, and then came on here hoping loads of other women would join in with slagging her off as well.

Which is every bit as immature as the ex trying to make her boyfriend jealous, to be honest.

Her husband had affairs so she knows the pain of that especially when she begged him to go back so I guess we were stumped by a woman of similar age to us treating my friends partner in that way . There could be another side to this story of course but in my experience , the people I’ve known to behave like this are 14.