I wonder if anyone else has been through this or can help.
my ex left me quite a while ago but we are still going through a divorce. I have cancer and complex trauma from abuse. There has been confirmed physical, emotional, psychological and verbal abuse towards me and the children. They are aged between 8-15.
their entire life has changed. Used to go to private school, ex removed them and left me to deal with fallout. Change of friendships. I have been left with £6k to live on. Cannot pay bills. Cannot do their activities anymore. They have stopped wanting to go anyway as know I have little money. I Have had to go through all sorts of legal proceedings while litigant in person, including domestic abuse. It’s drained me. Two years of my life up through the night writing papers while feeling traumatised.
They haven’t seen their father for over two years due to court.
The boys fighting has got worse this year and I am completely drained trying to deal with it and get help. There is real stigma as I don’t want to tell friends who will likely gossip. The children are well behaved so it seems with other peoples children.
my youngest calls me horrific swear words, last week starting throwing stones at my door, was fighting his brother and ran off. I called police as they wouldn’t stop fighting. Police good and referred to social services.
They fight to the point where one gets hurt, usually the older one. Last year massive bruise.
This year stamping on brothers neck, grabbing, hands round necks and hand over mouth almost like a rape.
Youngest is rude to my elderly mother. Can be belligerent at school.
Tonight punched brother in gut. More bruises.
this isn’t all the time and they love each other but it seems to be getting worse.
I’ve referred myself to social services.
had CAMHS therapy but was strange. Took so long that older child didn’t need it as much as younger one. Did lots of family tree work, tgen talk of window of tolerance then it stopped.
school aware.
private therapy too expensive.
I had domestic violence therapy and she said I am feeling shame. Labelled me. Don’t think she’s right so asked for someone else.
Can social services help? Is anyone else living like this?
my best friend says she worries about my son but does naff all to help me or us
thank you.