I recently met my friend's newish boyfriend a few weeks ago. They've been dating for over 8 months now, they knew each other at university but never got the chance to get together then, despite liking each other. I think they were both with other people back then. We're all in our mid forties now.
He seems very affable, a little bit shy, there's something about him I'm not too sure about, although I couldn't put my finger on it. I had only just met him but something felt off. Friend is very happy with him, but did tell me he cheated on his wife, now ex wife..... not the reason for their divorce apparently.... but they had been unhappy for years etc. etc. I didn't know this until the other day.
Anyhow, they invited me to his place for dinner last week. It was nice evening, but I couldn't help but notice he was on his mobile. A lot. He has adult children, he isn't a carer or anything, but most of the time my friend and I were chatting, he picked up his phone. I also noticed that when he put it down, he put it face down behind him on his chair. At one point, when he went upstairs, I assume to the bathroom, he took his phone with him. I thought that was super strange.
Am I overreacting? It's possible I am.... but I have only recently ended a year long relationship in which my ex was fairly shady with his phone right from the start and then started taking it up to the bathroom with him and he'd be on Whatsapp. He was a porn addict and was also trying to get in touch with his ex.
Am I jaded maybe? But this guy seems shifty and doing the same thing my ex did. I mean, why take your phone to the toilet?