Advice please

[BeHappyRedJoker]

Alone after 25 years in rekationship after break up 2 weeks ago..feel lost

Sorry to hear that @BeHappyRedJoker
it will get easier with time.
did it end mutually?

No he left after big row packed bag 2 weeks later

No ..had row he left 2 weeks later

Very early days - 2 weeks

Do you want him back ? Do you think he will come back ?

No he won't come back ..i dud want him to but ghosting me fir 2.5 weeks cancelled bills dd and refusing to collect his things disent help how I feel...refused to talk...at 66 feel hard to see a happy future alone

Oh love, there is a happy future - it just takes a bit of time to get over the shock, but then you will suddenly find that a weight has lifted I'm certain.

In the meantime, have you any family or friends locally?

While he hasn't taken 'his stuff', use this time to make sure you are armed with financial info - get copies/take photographs of all bank accounts and pension info that you both have.

My are very close family though their not local...friends were all connected ted to his family ..he was born raised here..no joint accounts lived together

My are very close family though their not local...friends were all connected ted to his family ..he was born raised here..no joint accounts lived together

This is heartbreaking, I am so sorry. No advice, really. If it gets really bad please call the Samaritans. It must be so hard

I'd never talk to them I dont want professional help and they dont give advice id rather be on here and talk to real people

A friend of mine has been volunteering for the Samaritans for about 7 years. She is not "a professional " in a sense she doesn't have formal qualifications like a psychotherapist etc. And she can't give advice, that's true. She is there to listen. Even if people call at 3 in the morning

Are there little ways you can pick yourself up? Focus on the here and now? A nice treat, a walk, a favorite spot?

Iam trying to keep busy out and about family taking me to lunch tom..ive always been very independent but now its just different ..its just hard but samitans iam sure are great but not for me..its just the over thinking...and quiet house ....

It's a big shock, it's going to take time to heal. Sending love

There's obviously more to this than one big row and then he left. Not that you have to say anything on here of course. Its nothing to do with anyone on here.
However just think about what's happening in your relationship and whether you'd actually be better on your own. 2 weeks is very little to get used to being without him around. It doesn't mean that you can't be and eventually you may be happier.

2.5 is very little but he'll never come back once he made decision ..as you said alot more I cant say..its hard to know but he won't talk or communicate..and told people its over...just didn't tell me found out through 3rd party

Hi OP, how are? Are you getting good support from your family? (You said yesterday you were going for lunch with them today)

Yes alot but so lonely now theyve gone

Hi there, sorry for the late reply, manic day yesterday. How are you today?

I am surprised there are so little replies.

Can you maybe repost and explain your story in more detail? I think you might get more replies.

It's sometimes hard to comment if there's little information