Sudden feeling of overwhelment during intimacy, anyone else?

[Clubsoda1]

I typed this a few times but changed it because it never seemed to make much sense.
Long story short. Last night during sex with my BF I got distressed out of nowhere and it is still bothering me today. He stopped immediately when I said the safe word and he reacted well, but it somehow left me feeling like a disappointment which I know logically doesn't make any sense.
I don't understand why it happened now, and not before when I had been ok with everything that we did because it was nothing different.
Has this happened to others before? Like feeling a sudden feeling of complete overwhelming, or is this just me?

Was this some kind of nonstandard sex, that you needed a safe word?

Was it just normal sex? Why do you need a safe word?

It sounds like you’ve been doing things you’re not really 100% comfortable with and have had a physical reaction to that.

I can't imagine needing a safe word during sex, but each to their own. It's not a world I inhabit. Sounds like your brain is objecting to things you've allowed your body to be subjected to. Are you giving full and enthusiastic consent to the kind of sex you're having with your partner?

safe word?

It wasn't standard sex but like I said last time I was totally ok with it, and I am confused why this happened now. But maybe it was just not right on the day. I feel better today and he's been supportive, too.

That was your gut telling you that you didn't want to do it. Listen to your gut, and don't feel in any way bad about it.

It could be several things happening at once, like your mood, hormones, instincts. The most important thing is to say your safe word when it doesn’t feel right, and for your boyfriend to listen and stop. Please don’t second-guess yourself and your feelings. You did well.

You gave conditional consent, changed your mind, and communicated this clearly; he responded immediately and without judgment.

This whole episode sounds to me like a success story.

Thanks :)

Are you the male partner?

No, but I feel much better today

Is that the same bloke who your friend had warned you about?
If so she seemingly has a good measure of your boundaries. It might be a good idea to talk to her.