Husband snoring = no sleep for me!

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My husband, 60, has started snoring very loudly and his body also jerks in his sleep. It's literally driving me mad. I wear ear plugs but I can still hear him and the whole bed shakes when his body jerks. This started about 6 months ago and I feel like a zombie. I spend most nights now sleeping on the sofa and I'm beyond exhausted. We don't have a spare room and I can't afford to divorce him!! Any suggestions?

I dispatched mine to the spare room, but since that isn’t an option how about separate beds? It would help with the bed shaking and jerking around.

And, if possible a sleep study for your DH. He may have sleep apnea and need a machine.

White noise machine for the snoring- I don’t hear my DH now.

The jerking I can’t help with, mine does it on occasion but not regularly. Separate beds?

Has he seen a doctor?

It could be sleep apnoea, which is quite dangerous and he should see his doctor.

In the meantime, I suppose all you can do is sleep as separately as possible. Get him to sleep on the sofa. That might persuade him to do something about it.

Your DH needs to see the GP to be investigated for sleep apnoea. Untreated, it can have serious health implications.

My DH finally got checked out after me on at him for years and he was diagnosed with severe apnoea and has a CPAP machine at night.

I would but he's 6ft 5 and literally won't fit on the sofa

Would separate beds in the bedroom help, At least for the movement ? We sleep separately now, i snore terribly and he has insomnia so was always flouncing about in bed. Separate beds was the way to go.

Sounds like sleep apnea, he needs to see a dr and ask about a cpap.
i don’t sleep in the same bed as my partner, I was getting hardly any sleep and was waking up exhausted and angry. He sleeps in the spare room.

can you swap out the sofa for a sofa bed?
I can’t sleep with a snorer, the noise makes my brain crazy.

Have a snorer here. He went to doc had all tests and it wasn't sleep apnea. He has polyps and allergies. Steroid nasal spray helps as does antihistamines.

Spare room? Works wonders

Mouth guard works well for DP

We don't have a spare room

In the op.

Also, very privileged to just assume everyone has a spare room.

And patronising to think that if they did, the would not have already considered this as an option.

yeah that’s sleep apnoea. He’s jerking awake as he’s stopping breathing. My husband has this and he now wears a mask every night and I can sleep again!

Camp bed or sofa bed in lounge.
or separate bedtimes
two single beds
stay at a friend/ relative’s house for sleep respite

Him not taking any steps at all to sort this out is the ultimate fuck you op.

I finally told DP I was gone unless he got his snoring sorted. He booked a GP appointment the next day and a week later he invited me to attend the appointment with him. He's been prescribed some nasal spray, is currently dieting and started exercising and last week came home with a sleep study kit that he's awaiting the results of.

It may be that your DH may not be able to stop his snoring completely but his not doing anything about it whilst you're not sleeping and banished to the sofa is a deal-breaker. He needs to spend a couple of nights on the sofa while you have a decent night's sleep.

Has he been to GP? Could he need one of those CPAP machines?

Mouth guard called sleep well…discuss with a dentist.

Is he overweight? If so, losing weight may help. In the meantime I would definitely look into replacing your sofa with a sofa bed