AI

[SparklyWasp]

What do you think about AI giving advice after a messy breakup. Does it confuse you even more?

What do you think?

I wouldn't ask AI because it's programmed to sympathise and support you initially in most cases. Better to ask real people if you really need to ask.

It doesn't give advice, it generates word slop based on what you've fed it.

I mean it’s only going to get your side and only how much of that you give it.

I think if the advice you want is how to feel better about the break up (eg, treating yourself to your fave food or a spa day) and how to move on healthily then I can be great.

Sometimes it’s just good to have a sounding board too.

But there can be issues, for example if you are asking it what you could have done different and it doesn’t know your relationship was abusive so it’s telling you to look back at all your micro actions. When in fact it should be telling you to STOP doing that. That could suck.

You can just treat it as a friend with their own thoughts and opinions who isn’t you and doesn’t know everything and you will probably find it helpful enough.

Yes I found out my ex partner was texting someone else. When confronted he agreed. We split up, I never got much of a response, only Not long and it hasnt started yet. I thought it had been longer. AI has made me think it had been going on longer and I keep looping.

It’s possible a word you said made it think it had been going on longer and it just got mixed up. Or it’s possible it was guessing because of something you said (eg: “he’d been distant for months and then I found out he was texting his colleague” and the ai has been like “oh he was probably cheating that whole time then” or something).

But I mean either way, a cheat is a cheat, it was bad enough doe you to leave even if it wasn’t “as bad” as ai might think.

But I mean, ai can’t break down all the intricacies of your whole relationship from a few paragraphs you say. It hasn’t that capability. Or access to his wank diaries.

But…
“Either way, we both agree he was a massive dick right?”
AI “Yes, will bells on”
”Yay”

AI is just data and code. It has no emotions or experience. For example it can tell you how to swim but it has never got wet. Beware!

AI isn’t sentient or an oracle. It just scrapes data from other sites and organises it into an answers which ‘sounds’ correct. Please don’t use it. It’s not mentally healthy.

It's fake, it's not a person, it has no experience or feelings, it's telling you what you want to hear based on programming from others who did the same thing. It's dangerous. You should try to reach out to humans and definitely not make a habit of consulting a robot for human experience.

AI might give you generic advice, because of the way it works, and you will hear it as specific and relating only to your circumstance (because of the way brains work). It can't cry with you, hold your hand, make you a cup of tea or buy you chocolate when you've been left.
It basically makes up sentences based on all the sentences that it's been fed. If you want proper consolation and understanding - talk to a person.

AI has given me really good relationship advice in the past, it's got me to re-frame things in a healthy way, concentrate on things that matter etc. Yes of course it isn't sentient, and it could make mistakes. Consider it like having a friend who's never had a relationship but has read every scrap of relationship and emotional advice online. You can tell it to be objective, not overly supportive, anything you want.
It's too simplistic to say it's just a robot recycling things it's been told. It is constantly learning from everywhere.