Okay so about 6 weeks ago we had our first date.
Before meeting up, it was like messaging a stereotype of a gay best friend or something. The chat was constant and flowing! The day before meeting, chat dried up. Drizzled out to one or two messages a day. On the day of the date, he didn’t message until lunchtime with confirmation of where we were going to meet.
Date went amazingly well. He’s really easy to talk to and acts very interested, asks questions. Answers questions back and is just really easy to have a laugh with. I did end up sleeping with him in a hotel.
Next day, nothing. So I messaged around midday to say thank you for a lovely time, I enjoyed myself. He replied that evening saying he had a great time. And that he had just got in, after going out for the day.
Radio silence from him until mid week, where he asked ‘how are you getting on?’. Then asked about meeting up again when he messaged randomly that Friday. But he was going away to Jamaica for 2 weeks, as he’d already told me beforehand. So I said when he gets back. He didn’t give a plan/date, just agreed and said it was a shame it was so far away.
No messages at all during holiday. Nothing. On his return, he messages with a few pictures of the holiday. Said when am I seeing you, when are you back from Italy (I was in Italy after he went to Jamaica). Again, no contact from him at all messaging wise.
So we met up the next week, about a month since our first date. Again, dinner and hotel. I really enjoyed it, fancy him so much and he’s such good company for conversation. Then, nothing. No messaging at all.
5 days later, messages again to ask when we can meet up. So we met up and did the same thing again. The next day, I sent a message to say it was another great time. Didn’t hear from him again until about 10pm, message said ‘me too, had a great time :)’
Heard nothing from him at all until a week later. He’s asking me to come for dinner and would I mind joining him, his cousins and aunty (who he has explained before he is very close to) is coming.
What’s going on? I’m enjoying his company and trying not to force something more if it isn’t there for him.
I have 2 DDs and have been through a separation a while back. I’m 29, he’s 30. I initially thought he was very attracted to me but maybe children from previous relationship were a deal breaker so he’d decided that I wasn’t going to be a partner category. But now I’m being asked to meet family?
I suppose the reason for my thread is the confusion. He isn’t one of the rare ones who never messages beyond making plans as he started OFF being the most chatty messaging man I’ve ever known. Then 0 beyond a quick how have you been and to make further plans/logistics of meeting up/you here yet etc