Is there any point reporting this? (TW rape)

[JaneDoe06]

I haven’t thought about this for a long time but the recent Russell Brand rape trial has brought it all up.

20 years ago I was dating a guy and he raped me. I’d gone back to his house for consensual vaginal sex but the morning afterwards he anally raped me. I didn’t consent and it was really horrific. I’d never had anal sex before and haven’t since. I haven’t seen or spoken to the man since.

I didn’t tell anyone at the time and the only people I’ve since told have been therapists.

There is obviously no evidence and no witnesses.

It has similarities to the woman giving evidence against Russell Brand which made me wonder if it’s not too late to report him to the police?

I know exactly who he is and a quick Google search has found him easily.

I can’t remember the address but I know the approximate area.

I know it’s probably pointless but just have a feeling of why should he get away with violently assaulting me.

That's horrible. I'm sorry that happened to you. That's happened to me a few times and the awful thing was I didn't realize at the time it was classed as rape.

They may not be able to actually do anything at this point but of course reporting it would be reasonable.

I'm so sorry that happened to you. I think you should report if you can. There may be others who have reported too. There are very likely others that it happened to.

please do report. I did. He was arrested and questioned. No charge. But he will always have been arrested for rape.

It was the most empowering and freeing thing in the end. i knew he had lost.

Even though there wasn't enough to prosecute i know now that it's on his record so if someone else accuses theres a pattern.

Im so sorry you went through this

Thanks for the replies. I’ve been investigating and it looks like he has two daughters.

If I do report him I hope it makes him think about how he would feel if someone did that to his daughters.

I’ve found the Russell Brand statements difficult to because I’ve had the same thing happen. I did report it at the time and it was no further actioned, this was 26 years ago.
Long story short the Met re investigated my case 3 years ago and he was arrested and it went to trial, there was a lot of evidence kept on file from when I initially reported. Photos of injuries (hand marks around my neck, missing hair and awful internal injuries) He was found not guilty, his defense claimed it was consensual rough sex. I did get compensations even though he was found not guilty, this was because of my injuries.. Eleven thousand pounds.
Im not telling you this to deter you, if you feel like reporting could help you then absolutely do, it’s so sad that so many women go through this and I’m so sorry you have to.
If your therapists have kept notes about what happened to you that can be used as evidence in court and like others have said there maybe others.
I would really recommend phoning Rape Crisis uk, they are very understanding and can also help you report if you want to, they will also point you in the right direction to get an ISVA (A person to support you through whatever road you choose)
Again I’m sorry that it’s happened to you too 💐
Also just to add, I know I said that my rapist was found not guilty but the police turning up at his door and charging ruined his life. He lost his job (DBS checked career) and within weeks his wife left him and moved far away with there children, the police told me this after the trial.

I’m so sorry this happened to you
I do think it’s worth reporting as you don’t know how many other similar reports there have been or how that may support someone else in the future who experiences something similar
Sending you a big hug 💐

I’m so sorry @ItalianChipsthat is horrific. But well done for being brave and I’m glad you got compensation.

I’ve reported an SA recently. He’s been found guilty on 17 charges so far, multiple women and none of us had evidence as such. The police have been amazing and I’ve felt believed and supported the whole time

Thank you so much for all the replies. I am going to report him. I don’t really know where to start but I think you can report online.

@JaneDoe06 i called the non emergency police and said i wanted to report a crime that happened a while ago. The police came and took my statement. Then i got an indepth interview that took two days

I sat on jury for a historic husband anally raped wife trial. No evidence as such just both accounts. He got 15 years. I have also been a victim myself and haven't reported it, so I see both sides.

Thank you so much for all the replies. I reported it online on Friday. The police called straight away to get more information. I now live in a different city to where it happened so it’s been passed over to my local police force.

I spoke to my local police yesterday morning. I requested to speak to a woman and it was fine. She was very young poor thing- probably not the nicest story to hear first thing on a Saturday.

She said I’ve done the right thing reporting it and they will be in touch over the next few days to let me know next steps.