Preparing to split - help

[Feelingbananas]

I am planning to end relationship with partner - father of our two teenage children - not married. He has been abusive but believed was pushed to it (rather than acknowledging any fault of his)
we own a house together mortgage free.
what do I need to do to get my ducks in a row.
Finances are simple as we are not married it is just the house.
what do I do if he refuses to sell the house/buy me out?
should I stay in the house? I could afford to rent something for 6 months but no guarantee he would agree to selling house in that time. I will do this if I feel unsafe. I doubt he will move out.
struggling to process due to sudden shocking behaviour

anyone been in similar and have any advice?

You mentioned sudden shocking behaviour. Are you safe?

If so, get legal advice and get the ball rolling to sell. I am assuming neither of you can afford to buy the other out?

Thanks for the reply. I am safe at the moment because I haven’t said anything and we are away. Once we’re home and I tell him it’s over I’m not sure.
yes maybe I will get some legal advice first that’s a good idea. I just need to have a plan - he prob could buy me out but he might not want to.
thanks again

While the house may need to be sold, in this market, it could take quite a while.
I would see legal services, and make sure someone is with you when you tell him it's over.

Do you think you can buy him out? Speak to a mortgage advisor and ask their advice, id also get some advise from a solicitor. Do you think when you have the conversation about splitting up, that you will be safe? Please call the police if you get attacked/have someone with you?

it might be best to sell the house and go 50:50 on sale if it means a clean break

do you have joint bills account? Savings? Bills in both names?

I have my own account and savings as does he. Thank fully which means I can go even if I have to leave the house. I have a good safe job. I just need a plan in my head. Thanks for the advice it’s appreciated. I have told some friends to help it feel real and I will tell them when I’m planning to leave. Thanks again

Good luck op. Sending you positive vibes x

I think he can be forced to move out, depending on whether you pay the rent or not. I got my brother to leave my house, because i pay the rent.