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My 50th

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Jovi2876jbj · 25/10/2026 16:21

Totally peed off..

It's my 50th in two weeks...i bought some tickets to see a show on My birthday , i thought my hubby and i would enjoy....he said great book them and he pay me back as its on my birthday and he said we go out for meal beforehand...been really looking foward to it...
Few days ago he said he can't afford take me out as spent £500 on fishing stuff....he said he take me out the saturday after as he gets paid the friday after my birthday, then today he said he's going fishing with his mate on the saturday, I said were going out, he said no I can't afford it ..
Tried to speak to him and he just says your moody etc you got enough from me..

He bought me 2 cheap versions of shirts and a cd from a group i like...now I've not played cd in years...but I thought okay nice its a thought........🤷‍♂️

Now I don't want to go see this show as im now paying to take him.out on my birthday!
I told him im not going , he said iv wasted £60 its stupid but he's just spent £500 !!

How do I react ?

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MyCatsAreFuckwitts · 25/10/2026 16:25

Go and see the show with a friend.
Let him spend a miserable day/night fishing.

MassiveOvaryaction · 25/10/2026 16:29

Your poll is terrible, rich tea is the one true biscuit 👩🏻‍⚖️

Go with a mate? Don't cut your nose off to spite your face and all that.

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Jovi2876jbj · 25/10/2026 16:33

It'd sad but unfortunately I've just moved to this area so dont know anyone here yet and my family live 7 hours away

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JenRummy · 25/10/2026 16:45

That’s absolutely awful OP. You should go to the show yourself. Spending £500 on fishing 🎣 gear tells you all you need to know about what he thinks of you. You shouldn’t have to beg for consideration or to have to negotiate so you feel like you matter too. To then make plans on the 2nd date is off the scale selfish. Go talk to him again and if he dismisses or deflects or gets defensive = he doesn’t GAF about your feelings. Could always fire all his fishing gear on ebay and go see your family.

Gobbledegoo · 25/10/2026 16:49

I'll come for the laugh and the carryon! Is it is in the UK?

moderate · 25/10/2026 16:50

Jovi2876jbj · 25/10/2026 16:21

Totally peed off..

It's my 50th in two weeks...i bought some tickets to see a show on My birthday , i thought my hubby and i would enjoy....he said great book them and he pay me back as its on my birthday and he said we go out for meal beforehand...been really looking foward to it...
Few days ago he said he can't afford take me out as spent £500 on fishing stuff....he said he take me out the saturday after as he gets paid the friday after my birthday, then today he said he's going fishing with his mate on the saturday, I said were going out, he said no I can't afford it ..
Tried to speak to him and he just says your moody etc you got enough from me..

He bought me 2 cheap versions of shirts and a cd from a group i like...now I've not played cd in years...but I thought okay nice its a thought........🤷‍♂️

Now I don't want to go see this show as im now paying to take him.out on my birthday!
I told him im not going , he said iv wasted £60 its stupid but he's just spent £500 !!

How do I react ?

If I understand correctly, he will be able to afford the tickets, but only after the show? So it’s not that you will be paying to take him out on your birthday as long as he subsequently pays up.

But you have much deeper problems if he really can’t manage money to this extent. If you don’t have kids, I would consider divorce.

Thatnameistaken · 25/10/2026 16:54

Was he this blatant an arsehole before you move 7 hours from your support network?
It reeks of utter selfishness and disregard for you and your feelings

30degrees · 25/10/2026 16:56

He doesn't consider or prioritise you and then turns it back on you saying you are moody. Throw him back and find a better fish.

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Jovi2876jbj · 25/10/2026 16:59

@moderate he said book tickets ,i pay, this was ages ago, and he give me money back as its on my birthday and he take me out for a meal. And now cos he spent money on fishing stuff he has no money left and cant do anything with me. On the saturday he said hes going to the fishing shop to get bate then out with his mate 🤷‍♂️ but said he take me out !! I questioned him but he got the hump and said im moody etc etc

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Arlanymor · 25/10/2026 17:04

So he's totally backtracked on everything he promised you? That's horrible. The salt in the wound is not even going to the show with you but going out with his mate instead. I'm so sorry, I would be very upset in your shoes. I would also go by myself and sell 'his' ticket back to the box office if you don't have anyone to go with. I also vote custard cream. They are the worst type of biscuit.

Bananalanacake · 25/10/2026 17:05

Why did you move 7 hours away from family, was it for work? I would join as many social clubs as you can and make some friends you can regularly meet up with.

moderate · 25/10/2026 17:13

Jovi2876jbj · 25/10/2026 16:59

@moderate he said book tickets ,i pay, this was ages ago, and he give me money back as its on my birthday and he take me out for a meal. And now cos he spent money on fishing stuff he has no money left and cant do anything with me. On the saturday he said hes going to the fishing shop to get bate then out with his mate 🤷‍♂️ but said he take me out !! I questioned him but he got the hump and said im moody etc etc

And now cos he spent money on fishing stuff he has no money left and cant do anything with me

He can do something with you. He just chooses not to.

gerispringer · 25/10/2026 17:20

You could advertise the tickets on a local Facebook? Or maybe just advertise one and you go with the other one. Take yourself out for a meal. Leave your selfish OH behind. He doesn’t deserve a treat which you have paid for.

SleepQuest33 · 25/10/2026 17:26

He’s what I call a jerk! I would be very upset OP. How selfish of him. Where in the UK are you OP? If you’re near me I’ll definitely join you!!!

ithinkilikethislittlelife · 25/10/2026 17:46

I’d go on my own if I had to. What a horrible man, poor you.

Skybluecoat · 25/10/2026 17:49

I would rather go on my own than go with him.

Is he always so selfish?

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