An ex colleague who I have been friends with for nearly 20 years introduced me to some of his friends about 12 years ago. There is a giy in his 50s in our friendship group and had a crush on me. Years ago he was kneeing me under the table and his fiancée was next to him. I had to get up and speak to another person who was with us outside and he was really good and said let’s swap seats.
This guy would pester me with messages and I had to phase him out. 18 months ago his girlfriend caught him staring at me and smiling at a group meal last year. She was stern and had a go at him at the meal quietly but I could hear. Luckily he stopped messaging after this.
Recently he has started messaging again. I ended the conversation about having to go to work but he won’t stop. I don’t want this harassment. I have a partner who I am happy with. I can’t cut him off as we all go out for group meals but don’t want to message.
I know it’s not all men but I have had this before and don’t know why they think it is acceptable to harass a woman who has not shown any interest. It’s getting me down as I don’t need this hassle again.