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Threatening behaviour

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Htb777 · 24/10/2026 23:57

I took my 8 year old grandson home to his dads tonight after a party. It was dark so I helped him across the road, through the gate and waited at the side of the house until I could see he was safely in. However when I returned to my car my ex son in laws dad was banging my car window, swearing shouting n threatening me cause I stepped on his property. I was shaking. Im so worried as my autistic grandson has to be dropped off to the same house tomorrow and hes told me god help me if I set one foot on his property. Im not leaving my autistic grandson to find his own way to get in there house. Any advice please. I cant speak with the dad as he blocked me on everything after I had a go at him cause he keeps calling my autistic grandson fat.

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Tangelablue · 25/10/2026 00:16

Is your ex son in law also aggressive and abusive? I don't think you should do any more drop offs as it isn't safe. Has your grandson's time with his dad been agreed in court? I would be seeking advice from social services, is your daughter in you grandson's life?

MrMurphysComeuppance · 25/10/2026 00:25

Don't do the drop offs any more. If your grandson's dad wants to see him he can come and get him himself.

GrapeLipBalm · 25/10/2026 00:36

MrMurphysComeuppance · 25/10/2026 00:25

Don't do the drop offs any more. If your grandson's dad wants to see him he can come and get him himself.

I agree

Htb777 · 25/10/2026 15:22

Yes my daughter has custody of the boys but due to domestic violence from the ex relationship I do drop off. They dont want me in there street or outside there house. The dad's mom has said I should drop them at end of the road cause they have legs. My grandson is 9 and the other one is 5 and autistic so under no circumstances am I letting either of them walk alone anywhere.contacting social services tomorrow.

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MissMoneyFairy · 25/10/2026 15:54

No more drop offs, let social services and the police know, encourage and support your daughter to go back to the courts for either supervised or no visitation.

malloryknox123 · 25/10/2026 18:48

good heavens, stop the drop offs and let them make their own arrangements to collect the DC. That’s unacceptable

ExcitableCat · 25/10/2026 19:28

Tell him he can collect from you in the future but not to step foot on your property. What a nob. Definitely call SS over calling his children fat. Abusive twat

Onlyme7575 · 26/10/2026 23:55

Im thinking those poor kids are being abused when with their “dad” he already calls one fat.i think there is a lot more going on that no one knows.

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