Pissed off with mother

[FinallyPregnant2022]

I’ve mentioned/complained about my mother on here before - tricky character at the best of times.

My baby (2nd child) was one this week - we have plenty of warning that we would be having a little party (grandparents, cousins) not a massive deal just a little gathering with cake.

At the start of this week we mentioned the gathering again - and she said that she would not be coming as she was working. That’s fine - she isn’t hugely social (maybe some social anxiety, maybe ASD - we have speculated a lot over the years). We accepted her non-attendance and didn’t try and change her mind. She had left gifts and a card.

The day of the birthday came - no text and no phone call/facetime. Contact is irregular at best but the birthday being a special event I sort of expected something.

Husband finds it very odd. Am I right to be pissed off?

I don’t see the issue personally, she left you gifts and a card and said she was working.

I can’t think of many places I’d like to be less than a birthday-do for a two year old. Maybe she took a shift deliberately.

I wouldn't have expected a call but a quick WhatsApp would've been due in our house. But then she sounds hard work and not very invested in you as a family so maybe this is more in keeping with her actual character, rather than the one it would be nice for her to have.

She just doesn’t do that sort of thing I guess, plus she left gifts . I don’t do social gatherings but I’d not have missed a 1st birthday party tea.

No, she had told you she would be working on the day.