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Weird dreams about ex

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AppleCrumbleXx · 24/10/2026 16:24

This is something I wonder if other people experience but nobody really talks about!
I haven’t been with anyone since my ex, and occasionally I have dreams about us having sex or being intimate. The annoying thing is that they can feel so real, and I wake up feeling all flustered and embarrassed.
It’s been years since we were together, and although I have memories of him, I don’t spend my days sitting around thinking about him or wanting him back. But apparently my subconscious has other ideas!
Sometimes I wake up and feel a bit strange afterwards, almost like the dream has brought back feelings I haven’t thought about in years. And then I feel silly because it was literally just a dream.
I do wonder whether the fact that I haven’t been with anyone else since him has anything to do with it.
Does anyone else experience this? Do you ever dream about an ex in that way, even years later? And do you think it means anything, or is our brain just being weird?
Please tell me I’m not the only one because I find the whole thing so awkward! It was so real that this morning i was tempted to contact him even though he isn’t a nice person 😅

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Ulrikakakakaka · 24/10/2026 18:30

I have and I'm married to someone else. I don't hanker after him. All of them bar one are about us loving each other and kissing. In the other one he's with his mates and he clearly doesn't want me around. It does reopen the old feelings when I wake up.
I'd never contact him though.

BountyMarsMilkyWay · 24/10/2026 18:34

I have very recently infact and its been many years since I've seen him and I've been in another relationship since then. I have no desire to contact him.
It did make me think about him though.

AppleCrumbleXx · 24/10/2026 18:54

Thank you! Glad it’s not just me, was starting to think it was. I would never contact him but the temptation is there i definitely miss it and would be up for a fwb if he wasn’t such a terrible person 😅

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SeeIdontmindbeingthebadguy · 24/10/2026 19:05

I hate my ex, he was abusive and sex was a trigger for me. I’m happily married to my now DH for almost 20 years and have put it behind me and still occasionally dream about ex in a way that seems like things were good. It’s makes me very flustered and uncomfortable but I know it’s not that I want to go back

ItalianChips · 24/10/2026 19:10

Happened to me last night and I’m happily married. The sex is always better in my dreams than it was in reality. Normally If he’s in my dreams I’m trying to get his attention and he’s ignoring me.
I don’t give it much thought, I also had a dream I was married to Phillip Schofield and I can’t stand him, dreams are so random.

AppleCrumbleXx · 24/10/2026 22:05

it’s reassuring to know that its normal then, i thought my subconscious was trying to tell me something!

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mindutopia · 25/10/2026 18:28

I think this is quite normal. It’s just the brain shuffling through and reorganising memories. I have dreams about various exes. Even sometimes my one dead ex. Dreams about random old friends. Even my former landlord has featured a time or two. 😳 I have been very happily married to Dh for 18 years and have zero interest in any of these people. It’s just the brain doing weird things.

Ulrikakakakaka · 25/10/2026 21:50

ItalianChips · 24/10/2026 19:10

Happened to me last night and I’m happily married. The sex is always better in my dreams than it was in reality. Normally If he’s in my dreams I’m trying to get his attention and he’s ignoring me.
I don’t give it much thought, I also had a dream I was married to Phillip Schofield and I can’t stand him, dreams are so random.

You've just reminded me I dreamt I had a fling with Max Bygraves many years ago 🤣 most mn will probably have to google to see who he was. Older mn (60 plus) might remember him from their childhood when their grannies liked him. He was about 50 in my dream & I was only about 25 🤮

ItalianChips · 25/10/2026 22:13

Ulrikakakakaka · 25/10/2026 21:50

You've just reminded me I dreamt I had a fling with Max Bygraves many years ago 🤣 most mn will probably have to google to see who he was. Older mn (60 plus) might remember him from their childhood when their grannies liked him. He was about 50 in my dream & I was only about 25 🤮

How funny but yeah 🤢 I once had a really vivid dream that Bradley Cooper was completely heartbroken that I wouldn’t leave Bruce Willis for him, that was a good night!

AppleCrumbleXx · 25/10/2026 22:19

I’m reading this but they seem to be random dreams about anyone mine are only ever about my ex 🤔🤣

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