For context I have two children age 1 and 4. What I’m struggling with is my husband’s avoidance of talking about anything deeper than surface level or logistical conversations about the kids/home etc. He seems to get uncomfortable planning anything for the future and as a result, it feels like we never really move forward or achieve very much that we want. I struggle with this as I would like to plan for holidays, time for family etc as well as just a loose, evolving general plan for things in the future so that we have an idea of what we are working towards and feel fulfilled. He seems to think this is crazy and that I am never happy and always wanting more. He says I shouldn’t need a plan or goals in life to be happy and I should just be content and not think about the future. I understand living in the moment to an extent which we certainly do but with a family, surely some financial planning and planning for children’s education etc is important too? He leaves most of the difficult or planning decisions to me and doesn’t really participate when I try and discuss things with him. He’s making me feel like I’m crazy for wanting to talk about these things. It feels like he’s checked out and I’m not really sure how to get through to him or whether we can even be on the same page about how we want to live our lives? He is also extremely dismissive if I get upset about not being able to talk to him and if he sees me crying or anything ever he just walks away and becomes very cold. Any advice - I feel like we need marriage counselling to work on our communication problems - he says I’m the one creating problems by wanting more? Help!