Need a vent. Actions and words. Take heed!!
My bf of 18 months had been hot and cold for the last few months. Always said he cared, he wanted a future yet his actions said otherwise. No plans together for trips / activities. Despite him knowing how important this was to me.
Prioritised people over me that really should not be relevant: eg, work colleague.(yes female, no I never met, definitely gay if it matters)
Id asked him a few times if he did want to be with me
He always said he did and that he cared about me; but has now admitted when I could take no more of being disrespected and treated badly that he hasnt wanted to be with me for 9 months
I feel so rubbish. I knew in my heart that the last few months were not right but not 9 months. Despite lovely messages and calls and days out, my gut knew and now I presume his general absence was him keeping his options open and warming someone else up. Im trying not to overthink this btw.
I have been hurt before but this feels very tough as were friends first and foremost and i didnt ever think he could be so cruel towards me. He was always kind and respectful to me up until recently.
Trust your gut ladies!