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Driving 100mph

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JRsEyebrows · Yesterday 21:15

My ex used to (and presume still does) drive over 80+mph, 100+mph on more than a few occasions. He’d take great thrill in his ‘skill’, and treat all types of roads as a training ground for his blue lights, as he was yet to be enrolled into training due to lack of years on his driving licence. I had furiously objected to his speeding on numerous occasions, warning him of the danger to others but also immediately disqualifying him from receiving a place to train for his blue lights. I felt so hurt by this blatant disregard that I brought it up with my therapist at the time who just as annoyed, and told me under no uncertain terms to get in his car.

It was only this summer I was able to break up with him and move out. But in hindsight I wish I reported him at the time as I appreciate cctv is only kept for so long.
Im worried about how job pissed he is and once he’d have access to blue lights; a powerful car and freedom what that will mean to other road users. He already took liberties in his work car.
Would mine (and my therapist’s) word be enough to stand as evidence?
thank you for reading, any advice would be greatly appreciated.

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Gettoachiro · Yesterday 21:18

Nope it wouldn't. You'd sound like a vengeful ex.

Canonlythinkofthisone · Yesterday 21:21

CCTV doesn't record speed. Speed cameras do. Yes he sounds like an idiot, but since he's not your idiot anymore, don't stress yourself about it. It also makes you look slightly unhinged.
For what it's worth. I know a police driving instructor. They get cocky blokes through all the time who think they're the next Lewis Hamilton. The training humbles them pretty darn quick in his experience.

wifty · Yesterday 21:22

Disagree with PP RE being seen as a vengeful ex

My ex used to do similar and it was terrifying - even when I’d tell him to stop, he’d carry on for the thrill.

Not sure it would hold up in court but if it’s blue lights, maybe report via work? Difficult without any CCTV/speed cameras etc.

I HATE dangerous driving with a passion - people who do it are fucking idiots.

JRsEyebrows · Today 08:49

Thank you for all for your replies x

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euff · Today 08:57

You wouldn’t be wrong in reporting someone who probably continues to be a danger to others. I’m not sure what would be done unless you were calling to give them information to catch him in the act. It is likely you would be accused of being a vengeful ex as you didn’t report it before or break up with him due to it and report him.

speakball · Today 12:20

my ex used to do this along with a lot of other behaviours designed to alarm. I’m almost certain that your ex was also well versed in several other types of abuse as someone who does this is displaying a core disregard for the rights and safety of other people.

speakball · Today 12:23

Vengeful ex trope is the way society keeps these men safe. Ask someone who has lost a loved one, or had a loved one maimed through another’s routinely careless road use if it’s vengeful? Jesus

MoaningKeating · Today 13:52

Lack of context here. What roads is he doing 80+ or 100+ on? Motorways it is easy to speed on and fairly safe, whereas country lanes have speed limits of 60mph, and I wouldn't dream of doing over 40 on them as it is too dangerous.

I would be more concerned of people doing just under the speed limit on country lanes, rather then people going over it on motorways.

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