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Is this lust or love?

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aa6109px · 11/10/2026 18:25

i have met someone since 2 years on a thread… We have been speaking regarding a mutual thread topic which was exams on and off. - which is how we met
He said the moment he saw me he intended to marry me etc as we exchanged instagrams etc at that time there was nothing between us.

Now his Instagram is making me uncomfortable he follows so many girls with bikinis etc and I told him that’s weird and making me uncomfortable whilst speaking about marriage.

We met and we shared affection. I came back and he was little frustrated as I made it clear we won’t touch or kiss although before meeting he wanted to. after I went home he went cold and said he was feeling ready to have intimacy etc. and I was the cause of it.

Ofc before meeting him I didn’t want to hug or touch etc but after we met it felt normal to do that!

I’m extremely confused is this lust or love ? He says he will delete his Instagram after we marry.

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Wynter25 · 11/10/2026 18:27

Run!

PaperMachePanda · 11/10/2026 18:27

He just wants his leg over.

The moment he sleeps with you he'll drop you like a hot turd.

ForTipsyFinch · 11/10/2026 18:29

Is this a genuine post?

aa6109px · 11/10/2026 18:29

PaperMachePanda · 11/10/2026 18:27

He just wants his leg over.

The moment he sleeps with you he'll drop you like a hot turd.

Thank you 😫 he also says a kiss is nothing special and if we cuddled we should have kissed. He said I’m living in a lalal land and a kiss is just something that feels nice. It feels awful to hear this !

OP posts:
aa6109px · 11/10/2026 18:30

Wynter25 · 11/10/2026 18:27

Run!

Thank you!!

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PaperMachePanda · 11/10/2026 18:59

aa6109px · 11/10/2026 18:29

Thank you 😫 he also says a kiss is nothing special and if we cuddled we should have kissed. He said I’m living in a lalal land and a kiss is just something that feels nice. It feels awful to hear this !

What an awful man.

Get rid of him.

ScorpionLioness79 · 11/10/2026 19:56

You must be young and new in the dating world. I suggest reading articles on dating wisely, spotting red flags in men, and don't invest in bonding with men over the Internet for years. If you can't meet a man in public within two weeks of online chat, it's a waste of your time and emotional energy.

Agatha1989 · 11/10/2026 20:07

Get shot of him, he’s not good boyfriend material

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