Would this cross a line for you?

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Yesterday my partner woke up in a bad mood. He was telling me something and I accidentally interrupted him. I immediately apologised and asked him to carry on.

He became extremely angry, shouted, went into another room and ripped a large cupboard door off its hinges. Our 3-year-old was there and was telling him to stop shouting.

Later, while hoovering, he came across a bag of my clothes that I'd left there ready to go into the attic and threw the clothes around/out of the room rather than moving the bag. Still out of anger for me accidentally interrupting him.

I'm interested in other people's perspectives. Has anyone experienced this kind of reaction from a partner? Would this cross a line for you?

Have included a pic of damage, which has since been put back on but still broken.

This is full on abusive behaviour and you and your son should leave and not wait for it to get worse.

That is the only perspective.

Absolutely crossed the line. Leave for your child. I can't stress enough how damaging this is for your child.

Yes of course it crosses a line. You can’t live like this, and nor can your child.

I’d get myself and my young child away from this aggressive abusive cunt as soon as possible.

And you are with a violent man, in the same house as your child because…….??

You both deserve better. Much, much better.

That is not normal behaviour! Get out now for you and your sons sake x

Thanks everyone. Have known this for a while. Just needed some outside perspective for validation.

Yes. Absolutely. It is abuse and you should leave but be careful the anger doesn’t increase once he realises you are going.

Never in a million years would my husband do something like this. No it's not remotely normal or acceptable behaviour! I'm guessing this isn't the first time he's reacted in anger? I think you need to leave before it gets any worse. Hope you're ok 💐

Absolutely awful behaviour
Is it a pattern?
Is he depressed?

Whatever the reason for this reaction, he needs to move out immediately and figure out his issues alone. He can’t be a decent husband and a father in this state. Time to separate and take space, he clearly cannot handle being a part of the family right now, that’s not how you treat the ones you love. I know we all get snappy and angry, however this has crossed the line. I hope you’re ok OP.

The only reason he does it is to intimidate you.
That is unacceptable, and one of these days he will reach for you, or your DC, instead of a door

Get rid

Yes, leave as soon as possible.

Obviously crosses the line and I’d lay good money that it’s not the first time he has crossed the line, or at least walked all the way up to it.

That’s a massive overreaction to someone interrupting (and apologising!). Your poor 3yo having to call him out too. I would tell him he needs to leave the house for now and sort himself out, it will get worse if you let this slide and you really need to put yourself and your son first. Awful behaviour and even worse over something so minor.

From reading a few posts I gather that you know it's unacceptable behaviour, and it's happened before. You are intending to leave. I'm sure you know that when women leave abusive men it;s the most dangerous time. The man knows he has lost control and has lost everything so he can be very violent to both his ex partner and their children. You need to plan carefully to go somewhere that he isn't able to track you down. Don't give him any inkling that you're going, just go when he's at work.and don't get in touch. Make sure he's not got a tracker on your phone/car.

Here’s some more validation. Get rid as safely as possible!

This is abusive behaviour which will only get worse. Hope you plan to leave

But what are you gonna do about it seriously?
I hope you leave him.

Your poor baby. Contact women's aid.
You will obviously be better without this piece of shit

Huge red flag!

Is this typical behaviour from him over something so minor?

It genuinely saddens me that you have to ask this.