So we’re middle aged , divorced with adult and teen kids between us. Some live at home, others are in uni/ working. We live an hour apart, live full lives separately with work, family, friends and hobbies. We see one another twice per week.. a lunch and then on the weekend a day together and/ or an overnight . We have had a short holiday and a few weekends away. We are very happy and very happy with our situation.
we’re together eight months .
We haven’t had a chat about the future where we see ourselves headed . We are mad about each other, it’s mutual and equal. We are both consistent and seem invested in us.
Id like to keep the status quo at least until my youngest leaves home and he is also strong on our homes being our children’s special place without interference or anybody sleeping there while they are there. That said we make plenty of opportunities so it isn’t an issue.
I would like us in the future to spend a couple of nights per week in each others homes and live part time between each others homes while also keeping our homes as our family base. Neither set of kids have any relationship with the other parent .
Um not sure how to broach this but Indint want us to have this chat in three years time and be on completely separate pages .
I feel it may be too full on in view of the length of our relationship and also as we can’t predict the future.
so when did you have the ‘ chat’?and what do you advise? It’s early days and we’re not in any situation where we want to marry/ have kids/ get a mortgage together etc