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[buttercupsundays]

i recently caught my husband who is in his 30s messaging a 19 year old and there were hundreds of messages on Snapchat and voice notes etc. when I asked him he lied 3 times about what they were talking about and said he had no bad intentions.

The girl has just contacted me to tell me they were flirting and he had asked to see her in her underwear and how it could be “their little secret” and how he thought everything in his life was a bit samey.

do I believe her account? There is no proof as messages were on Snapchat so delete after a certain time. I know they have been speaking for a couple of weeks

What good reason does a 30-something man have to be sending hundreds of messages and voice notes to a teenager?

You should be able to figure this one out for yourself.

Your last thread was enough to end it. What more do you want?

I would say that her account is very plausible as opposed to your husband who had lied to you multiple times and is, in any event, sending hundreds of disappearing messages to a 19 year old girl 🤢

Of course you believe her. Or do you believe your DH has exchanged hundreds of messages with an attractive young girl discussing the weather. Don’t let the bastard gaslight you.

I mean, he’s admitted to sending an endless amount of inappropriate messages and he’s been spending time flirting and giggling with he…a person whose age ends with teen. I hardly think it’s beyond him to have asked this. He sounds awful tbh and lustful men never change.

I can't imagine what you're hoping for OP. He's a sleaze.

Yes of course. You already have the evidence. What do you genuinely think he was talking about with her in the hundreds of messages?

@OriginalSkangI actually deleted my previous thread as I didn’t want to keep looking at it as I thought I had my answers but now I’ve been made aware from her I now feel confused again.

What on earth else would he be messaging a 19 year old about?

grim.

when people don’t divorce and call out creepy men like this, it affects all our daughters.

She’s his friend’s girlfriend, isn’t she? What possible benefit would there be in her making this up???

‘Our little Secret’ classic groomers line. What a big sleazeball 🤢

@buttercupsundays what reason would she have to lie, it’s obviously possible that she could if say she wanted to split you up so she could have him for herself but i’d say that’s probably a bit far fetched. Time to confront your husband with the new information and see how he reacts.

Oh I remember the thread!

Honestly OP he is being totally disrespectful to you and your marriage.
You now know he is a liar and you cant trust anything he says.
Why do you want to be with a man who pervs on young women and tramples over the boundaries of his marriage?

Your husband is a perv who chats to teenage girls, sorry but you’re asking if you believe her? Why does that matter. You’ve seen the messages. do you think he’s asking her for the bus times? Why else would he be messaging her? You’re clearly naive and I get you want it to not be happening but it is. Sooner you finish your relationship the better. I’m not saying you’re not hurt and confused but do not beleive a word he says!

too many of these men! My ex was the same, we had 2 small boys, I left. Wasn’t easy but no way am I staying with someone who treats me with such disrespect.

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What a pervy old sleaze!

Regardless of what he said in the messages messaging a 19 year old girl constantly on snap chat is wildly inappropriate. Let’s be honest there is only a tiny chance that she’s is lying because what would she possibly gain from it?

Did she reach out to you or did you ask her? Did she explain why she is telling you? Does her bf know?

You have your answer. You need to show him what the consequences are otherwise you are telling him this is acceptable. What reason could he possibly come up with for why she would lie when he thinks so highly of her that he’s been in constant contact with her?

Agree with everyone else that what he said in the messages is not really the issue, he’s been messaging a teenager over and over behind your back. There can be no reason for this which is acceptable really. Get rid.

Grim.

He's guilty OP and it's adulterous behaviour. This type of man doesn't necessarily change as they get older, so unless you want to one day be in a relationship with a 50 or 60 year old man who is messaging much younger women, think carefully before staying with him.

This. Sorry.

Agree with those saying your last thread was enough to end it.

You could start a new thread every few days for the next 10 years and it wouldn't make you happier or him a better partner.

Oh come on!

I was just about to say this! OP posted before about her husband messaging his friend's 19 year old girlfriend 🤦‍♀️ OP - wake up and smell the coffee! He's a cheat!