First post so please be gentle. My husband is a keen runner and has been away several long weekends for marathons, leaving me with the 4 kids. I've always supported this and love spending time with the children but recently he has been constantly messaging a woman he met in the local running club, and lied to me about who he was messaging (I saw the name pop up on his phone). He shows no interest in me (I'm someone that needs a hug!) and hasn't wanted anything to do with me in years. I'm struggling with this - I feel really down as a result and am not my best self with the family if I'm honest. I've suggested time away together, date nights and even relationship counselling but there's no interest at all. The woman he's in constant contact with has moved abroad and today he's said he wants to go away for a long weekend to do a marathon where she lives (a 12 hour flight away). I've said I'm not happy about this unless we can first try and sort our own relationship - something I'm desperate to do because I love him and want the best for my kids. Am I being unreasonable? Any general advice would be much appreciated! Thx