Worried changing jobs will affect relationship with partner I work with

[BeGladTealCat]

Me and my partner met through work and I honestly love working with him.

Im not happy in the job anymore so I might be getting a new one - same money , better hours and I’m excited about it.

My only anxiety is that I'm scared the change will affect our relationship and I’m also scared that if they replace me with a girl he’ll fall in love with her.

I know it sounds stupid but I’ve been through some shitty relationships and he genuinely makes me so happy.

I just need some reassurance or some advice from people that have been in the same position

He can't be making you all that happy if you're scared he'll drop you and go off with someone else at the drop of a hat.

@sherbetlemonade its my own insecurities that are the problem. He does everything to make me feel secure but unfortunately I was in an abusive relationship before and the fear of being left will never go away

It's not fair to him to look in your eyes and see panic there, that he could be so easily led away like he's some feather that'll float away whichever way the wind blows.

Time to change your mindset and set different goals for yourself. One goal should be to build a fulfilling life BESIDES dating, so that if a breakup happens for whatever reason, you will have the normal upset but not feel broken nor going into a severe spiral because you're resilient and still have other good things going on in your life.

Secondly, realize that there's no guarantee a relationship will last, but that you do have some control when it comes to choosing wisely and to be the best gf you can be for a higher rate of success. Remember to have standards of choosing someone who has all your must-haves and lacks dealbreakers. And when you are the best gf you can be, that means not accusing a man of a crime he's never committed. I'm sure you don't want him being terrified that when you're apart and an attractive guy starts flirting with you at the store, that you'd know how to act appropriately as a taken woman. So have a little faith in him unless he shows you he's not trustworthy.

Read books on how to get rid of emotional baggage so that you don't sabotage any romance you're in. I once watched a show where a life coach had a woman with emotional baggage carry around two suitcases of heavy rocks everywhere she went--to another room, taking them in the car if she drove somewhere, etc. Then the life coach said, "Aren't you tired?"

Stop using your baggage as a crutch. You have power over your mind, so get to work.