Boyfriend hid explicit AI images after promising to delete them

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Hi guys. I’ve never posted but I really need advice. I F19, found ai porn of girls we knew as well as my 2 best friends on a hidden album in my M20 bf’s phone in May. As far as I knew, he deleted everything and vowed to work on himself and his porn addiction. I never truly forgave him but kept my composure throughout the rest of our relationship up until now. Today I found out that he never deleted any of those pictures he actually just moved them to his “my eyes only” album on Snapchat which is password protected. We’ve been having intimacy issues lately and I knew something was going on and I asked him to show me. Wtf do I do. Im so hurt and betrayed and insecure and confused. We live together with my best friend and our lease is up in July. I feel so betrayed and ugly and disgusting and I want to know why he feels the need to make and keep all of these pictures?? How often does he look at them? Just why… I’ve never had problems like this with other guys. Im heartbroken

Break up. You’re too young for this nonsense. Have a fulfilling life without a loser.

He comes home in around an hour and we’re gonna “talk” but idk how to even have a talk about this anymore

Leave him, he’s addicted to porn. It would be miserable trying to help him recover and he’s already shown that he’ll lie and betray you. This has nothing to do with you
, it’s his problem

Your young, no kids or ties with him- leave this one alone and find someone who doesn’t make you feel second best.

Get rid

Nope, none of that is ok. He’s had a very lucky second chance and now he’s blown that too.

Are you at uni or are you working? Can you afford the lease with just you and your friend? Could he afford the lease with your friend? Could you move back home for a bit?

This really isn’t ok. At 19 you shouldn’t be having intimacy issues or forgiving your boyfriend for getting off to images of friends. You deserve so much more than this - even if it feels heartbreaking now, you’ll be so much happier 💐

No one can afford the lease with just 2 people that’s the problem :/ we share a bed. It’s a uni apartment

I believe there are options for ending the tenancy. You’d have to find somewhere else to live but you’d be out of the flat. I think you might need to give two mo the notice unless you invoke the clause re mutual surrender.

That’s assuming you are in the U.K.?

If you can’t afford it without him, nor he without you, I think quitting the tenancy is the only viable option.

At 19 you don’t need this shit. Being a boyfriend is like a trial run - he failed the trial. He is poor quality.

You are not ugly and your self worth is not measured by this porn hound.

Working on you and your self esteem is the priority - your value is not set by any man and certainly not this low life. Women on this site can help you with advice on self esteem etc as it will make your life so much better. I know this minute you are too upset to do this but self esteem and loving yourself is so very important.

You mention your lease. Could family help? If you get on with them I’d call and discuss. You may not want to bother them but if you were my dd I’d want you to call.

Theres an article ‘secret sexual basement’ by Minwalla. Your boyfriend may be this type of man. You really don’t need him.

No one has said - he is an abusive predator who is breaking the law using these women’s likenesses to make porn without their consent !

if you don’t break up with him on your own behalf, then for gods sake do it for theirs and please please report him to police.

You've got no reason on earth to feel ugly or any of those things. You're not the one making AI porn images of people presumably without their consent. He is. He's the ugly perv.
Hold your head high and drop this guy, he's not a good one.

Like all porn addicts he needs more and more extreme material to satisfy his sexual appetite. In your bf case he is breaking the law with these images.

Porn addiction ,like all addictions, is very very difficult to control. He needs to want to break his habit and he needs professional help to break it. And even then he will have relapses.

Why put yourself through the misery and heartache of living with this man? He is already affecting your self esteem. He is the problem, not you.

Edited to say sorry @thestudio didn't mean to quote you and can't edit the quote out.

Sorry OP this is horrible for you. Research how to get out of your lease and remember in future not to live with a boyfriend until you have been together long enough to trust and with a way of leaving if necessary.

Absolutely - what he's done here is a sexual offence that he could be prosecuted for, this goes beyond a betrayal to you. Do these girls know?? He may also have shared them with others. You should break up with him, and report him to the police.

Is the best friend you live with one of the people he has turned in to AI porn? Because that's creepy as fuck and she should know who she is living with.