No judging please I already know it’s a messy situation.
my “so called partner” the father to my daughter I also have two older children but to someone else
2,7 and 11.
he broke up with me a few months ago because I didn’t like him not being with me and spending time with because we don’t live together he would prefer to sit in pub. He agreed to start taking things slow and ever since I’ve been walking on egg shells I know I should have just walked away but it’s hard when you love someone.
anyway I’ve had to change my hours at work because of the constant anxiety of him giving silent treatment, breaking up with me or just drinking all the time so I’ve lost so many hours because I work in hospitality and they don’t like working round kids.
last night I had a meeting for an hour I thought this would be ok for him to look after his daughter it resulted in him falling asleep on the sofa and my 11 year old trying to wake him to put our two year old in bed because he hadn’t my poor 11 year old had to lay with her till I got home so she was on her own.
i ended up telling my partners mum and she came to my house and dragged him home and he still doesn’t understand why everyone is mad his words was “drifted off on the sofa and everyone’s dying.
he couldn’t see how wrong it was.
and now he is being off with me and barely speaking and fallen out with me because I’ve spoken up to his mum about his actions. I’m just so drained and upset I really wanted it to work but he just doesn’t care about me :( he prefers being in the pub than being with me he can never sit at my house and spend time with me it always has to be in the pub.
I don’t know what I’m supposed to do :( I can’t even trust him with his daughter and I have no other support.