Need some opinion. Please be gentle and do not judge me. Story is in a nutshell without too much detail. A decade ago I met a much older man who promised me the world (child and marriage but I needed to finalise my then separation). I was living on my own, had a very good job/ career and I was thriving. He already had kids but I was vunerable and believed everything he said. I finalised my divorce and he started asking me to invest my settlement money in his house I said ok but in exchange for my name on the deeds, he said no. I lost my good job and started having all sorts of problems, he was relentlessly asking about the money. I had a substantial pot of savings at the time but because we were sharing time between my place and his place (and I had no job) my pot was depleting very quickly, in 15 months my money was gone. After my pot was gone he engineered a situation where he rented out his house and decided that we are moving into another rental. He was paying for it because I had no job. I was at home cooking, cleaning etc and he was very happy with that set up but I very quickly realised I have no pension contributions, no security and no money of my own. If something was to happen to him I would end up homeless. I gently started conversation about the wedding that he promissed me but he started telling me how things are not good between us because I did not want to invest money with him. Admittedly i didn't - but because I know I'd lose it. I spoke to solicitor who said absolutely do not invest with this man ever. This was during covid where I still had difficulties with work, eventually things started picking up, I changed industry etc but I ended up on very little money self employed. He was talking about paying my contributions but never did. Recently I secured a full time job that hopefully will bring security as it is for a stable organisation as much as it can be in this climate. We rent a v expensive place whilst his house stands empty mortgage free and raises in value (no more tenants there). He has been talking about selling it for years but it never happened. We both work 5 days per week but he argues daily that he does not want to share the cleaning or cooking or any housework as he pays for it. For context this man earns in a day what I earn in a month. He is on a v high salary yet complains non stop. He has a mortgage free house, pensions, secuirty. Refused marriage even after promises, refused insurance policy even a decade ago, refused to reverse his vasectomy so we can have the child he promised me. We have not been intimate for 5 years, we do not go on holidays, we do not do anything together as he has no initiative and anything I offer is a 'no'. My friends know he is unpleasant and makes me unhappy so they do not want to socialise with us / only with me. His friends are very much aware how he is and also have been withdrawing contact over the past few years. I do not earn enough at the moment to move out but I already told him it is the most sensible solution as this set up is not sustainable. Even today there si no security and I asked him fi he made any provisions for me since we have been together for a decade, he didn't and doesnt think he should. If I was his wife I'd be safe. In return he said to me that I don't contribute to the household and that my cooking, cleaning, meal prepping, housekeeping is not contribution. I am a lot younger than him and he is only excited if we walk on the street together. I feel he treats me like an arm candy, free future carer and free maid. I told him he is a liar and future faked me to which he responed 'yeah whatever'. I know I must leave but because it is so highly toxic I need some clarity from ladies here. Please be gentle.