I am 35F and ex is 33M. No kids.
In the last conversation I had with my ex, 5 weeks ago, we argued about how I feel he disrespects me. An example I gave was that a year on, he still owes me a significant amount of money which he has never proactively attempted to pay back - even in installments.
As soon as I mentioned that, he called me worthless - amongst other very cruel things and an antisemitic slur too. It wasn’t the first time he’d been cruel - unfortunately a year prior I ended up unexpectedly pregnant and decided to terminate (as we’d only been together 8 weeks), but at my age was very difficult. In subsequent arguments he had said he was glad he had never had a child with me and would never want to be with a woman like me. Stupidly I took him back, and then earlier in summer this other argument ensued.
I haven’t heard from him since. Do people like that ever feel shame for the cruel words they use? And why would someone ever call someone they supposedly love worthless?