Unsupported and lonely

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Hubby is unsupportive, won’t consider my feelings, won’t meet me half way when I try to make effort or compromise, he also try’s to pin the blame on me for things that have been out of my control.

I’ve tried multiple times talking to husband about it to set some boundaries moving forwards but he isn’t interested and it’s his way no compromise.

The talking just results in silent treatment, him refusing to talk about it, ignoring me, arguing, etc.. We are going round in circles and it’s heartbreaking.

Husband talks to his brother about me and tells him personal things about me, he uses the excuse he doesn’t have anyone else to talk about what we are currently going through in our marriage but that’s not true, the brother doesn’t like me and has made that crystal clear with hate mail to my husband about me.

Husband hasn’t defended me at all to his brother and hasn’t told his brother his behaviour towards me is unacceptable, husband just says that his brother has got a right to his opinion.

I had an accident on Saturday and unfortunately it resulted in a medical emergency which resulted in me needing an assessment at the hospital, it interrupted drinks between husband and his brother and I’ve since, by husbands brother, been called ridiculous and that he is keeping out if everything due to my my games..

The brother doesn’t even know me, not well anyway.. Hubby has not told brother his words are unacceptable and instead has re arranged drinks for the eve before my uncles funeral which has hurt as I have been struggling with my emotions since his death.

I really could have done with him here besides me the eve before my uncles funeral for emotional support, but I’m told I’m being silly, and that he is entitled to see his brother when he wants, I’ve never doubted that, I was just requesting his presence, but now drinks with his brother have been arranged so I’ll be sat emotional and alone.

Not sure where we go from here, we have been looking in to marriage counselling and prepared to give it a try but husband’s actions and feelings have deeply hurt me.

I just wanted the one person I thought I could rely on to give me some support.

See a solicitor. Get your ducks lined up.

You don't say what your situation is OP. Do you have children together, age, financial circumstance.

i imagine the answer is to LTB

Doesn’t sound like someone you should be calling your husband, clearly something
isn’t right in the relationship so i’d just
tell him you’ve had enough of being the punchbag and you want to separate, go and find someone who deserves you and recognises your efforts. Nothing changes if nothing changes.

He sounds horrible and has shown no desire to change. If it's his way or nothing, are you prepared to walk away? Because you should.

It appears your husband has little or no interest in you and isn't showing any sign he will change. His brother sounds very scathing towards you too and your husband appears to be influenced by him. Have any previous incidents occurred to cause conflict between you and his brother? if not presumably his opinion must be based on your husbands views about you.

This sounds horrible. I would imagine being single would be much nicer