Could my boyfriend's emotional detachment be depression, burnout or something else?

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I think there is something wrong with my boyfriend but I don't really know what it could be. He's absolutely not a bad person and very gentle but he generally seems really detached and disinterested in people. It's definitely gotten "worse" or more noticeable and I'm wondering if these might be signs of depression or maybe burnout.
He caused some upset last weekend when he called someone dramatic when they talked about something that clearly upset them. This evening we were with friends and he casually mentioned that he saw a child get hit by a car today, but he seemed surprised that we were all shocked and wanted to know more because he had apparently just decided to keep driving because he hadn't been involved, didn't care and because he had to be somewhere. He hadn't even mentioned it to me earlier today.
When we got home he went straight to bed because he was tired which is ok of course but again not the usual behaviour.

I just think these things have become more pronounced and I think that something is wrong but I know that he'll just claim to be fine if I raise it again.

Does this sort of thing around familiar? I was thinking of depression or burnout but I am no expert at all. Any suggestions welcome

Maybe just his personality. People are different /unreasonable to expect everyone to react the way you do. Why should he stop and gawp if he has nothing to add to the situation and competent people are already dealing with it? Unless he has particulat skill to add -eg doctor?
And even if a person is upset didn’t mean they have to create drama -I have a friend who demands attention for the least inconvenience -you don’t have to go along with it.

How old are you both? Do you live together?

Maybe he’s not for you. Might be a nice chap but he’s not a problem for you to solve. A boyfriend is often a trial run before commitment.

Would you want to have kids or an entire lifetime with this man the way he is? Or are you trying to ‘fix/mould’ him into something else that suits you better? Personally I’d spend time trying to work out why you are still with him / hoping he changes / you can fix him (assuming you think he needs to change) rather than moving on to a man who’s traits you prefer.

Someone else may like the way he is. Maybe. It would not be for me.

I believe love is not enough on its own for a good relationship.

Just to add - As for not stopping, if you witness a person being hit by a car surely you would stop and call 999 then write a witness statement for the police? No drama or gawping needed. I’d write an immediate account of events in the hope it helps someone. I’d provide my name and phone number to the adult at the scene. Surely it is basic decency to provide an account of what happened. If the kid ran out it may protect the driver, if the driver was reckless it may help the child get justice.

I would want to know why he didn’t act with basic decency. And if an adult wasn’t clearly taking charge of the situation / getting an ambulance I’d want to know why he didn’t stop.